usmcstepmom's picture


Hello, I'm new and just joined tonight to not feel so alone right now. having trouble w/ all the abreviations...I get SS, SD, BM...those are easy but some of the others are difficult. is there somewhere that tells me what all the abreviations mean?

Kes's picture

If you go to FAQ - up on the

If you go to FAQ - up on the left top of your screen, there is a list of commonly used abbreviations for the site.


Veteran disengaged SM of 12 years.

angeline's picture

Hi usmcstepmom. I'm new here

Hi usmcstepmom. I'm new here too, so we can be new together. Smiling SO isn't on that FAQ list, but I'm assuming it's significant other (that's how I'm using it, at least). I saw GUBM somewhere (sorry, can't remember whose post), and that threw me. Puzzled

The acronyms can be a little overwhelming, but I'm thinking that they become second nature over time.

LRP75's picture

GUBM threw me too...

GUBM threw me too...


I don't cater to crazy.

attempting_to_maintain_composure's picture

Hahaha, that's my BM...the

Hahaha, that's my BM...the GUBM. It stands for Golden Uterus Bio Mom/Birth Mom. Once upon a time, another blogger on here posted this article:

which describes the Golden Uterus Complex. It also describes the BM I have to deal with perfectly. It's almost like the person who wrote it spent a year observing GUBM.
And, so, she was thus dubbed the GUBM.

attempting_to_maintain_composure's picture

I think I will!

I think I will!

Lostinthemadness's picture

GU = Golden Uterus so GUBM =

GU = Golden Uterus so GUBM = Golden Uterus Birth Mum


`Tis better to stay quiet and be thought stupid, than to open your mouth and remove all doubt.

LRP75's picture

USMCSM -- welcome to

USMCSM -- welcome to steptalk!


I don't cater to crazy.

Rags's picture

Semper Fi from a Stumps brat.

Semper Fi from a Stumps brat. Not able to serve due to child onset (T-1) diabetes but I was born to a Marine at the base hospital in 29 Palms.

The TLA's (Two/Three Letter+ Acronyms) will become clear over time. If they don't just ask.

A few to get you started beyond the ones you have already identified:

DH = Dear Husband.
DW = Dear Wife
XW/XH = X (Spouse of appropriate flavor)
MIL/FIL/SIL/BIL = In laws of appropriate flavor.
BS/BD = Bio kids of appropriate flavor.

I hope you find this a good place to vent, contribute and to pick up some useful advice from others who are living the blended family dream.

Welcome and best regards,


A parent is an example, mentor, confidante, advocate and disciplinarian. Not a buddy. Parenting is not a popularity contest. -Rags

If you can't listen and learn then you will have to feel.-WLR

If you want to be a piece of my life then use your head

dtzyblnd's picture

Welcome! Semper Fi! 17 yrs

Welcome! Semper Fi! 17 yrs active AF here and a BM and SM.


Stephen King has ruined your step children!
You teach people how to treat you, remember that!
Be Polite, Be Professional, and have a plan to kill everybody you meet ~ General Mad Dog Mattis USMC

Gabriels Mom's picture

OMG BM has a Golden Uterus

OMG BM has a Golden Uterus Complex!!!! Why didn't I know about this before!?


"Life-It is sexually transmitted and is always fatal" ~Anonymous

"You smell like drama and a headache, please get away from me"

attempting_to_maintain_composure's picture

Ha! That's the same reaction

Ha! That's the same reaction I had when I first read that article. It's really eye opening, isn't it?