I shouldn't complain but WTH???
So SS9 has hand,foot, and mouth syndrome. He has blisters on his whole head, hands and feet. The doctor tells SS that he has to be quarantined and cannot be around his dad because he is immuno-suppressed. SS doesn't blink an eye. When the doc says it will be until late this weekend when he can be out and about SS starts crying like a baby. Why? BECAUSE HE THINKS HE WON'T GET TO SEE THE INCUBATOR! WTF??? Your dad and I work our butts off and I stay home with you all summer and give up a lot so we can live off one salary and you cry for the woman that probably isn't going to pick you up anyway???
UNGRATEFUL LITTLE @(#$&#(*&#%*(&^(!
I am beyond pissed. His dad has always been there for him. His incubator didn't show up for over 5 months in a row and then the rest of the year saw him for 2 days each month if that. WTF?!
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Poor little guy. My son just
Poor little guy. My son just got over HFMD...it is gross!
Don't worry too much...I understand what you are saying...I know the ass busting part for a lazy excuse of a BM.
In these next few years...SS will be maturing and his eyes will open to what he gets from you guys vs. his mom.
He will appreciate it...he is just at an emotional stage right now where "mommy" can still get her claws in im.
If she is that bad...there will come a day when he tells her to F.O.
I am a BM and I understand
I am a BM and I understand that but I also am a child of divorce and I never was close to my mom as a child. I was close to the woman that raised me. I know that this kid isn't me and he sure as hell is not as smart as I was but damn wake up and smell the roses here.
Incubator has not had him more than a couple of days at a time since he was 3 weeks old. Before that his DAD took care of him. Incubator couldn't be bothered.
The one not thinking clearly here is SS.
Thanks Mazzy, this is a lot
Thanks Mazzy, this is a lot easier for me to understand and comprehend. He must think every time she shows up she will not plant his ass in front of the tv and disappear. I can't wait till he is older and has too much to do on weekends and quits going with her. He throws fits if we do stuff with DD when he is with his mom. I am sorry but his mom always buys him an expensive game or something to keep him hooked and it's not fair to DD to be kept at home and not allowed any fun unless SS is there.
I can only imagine how you
I can only imagine how you feel...sigh...but know he's 9. It's so sad that these kids were handed crappy BMs and forever and ever and ever, unless they get counseling, etc. they still look up to, want the approval of, etc. of those crappy bio-parents...poor kiddo.
PS - poor you too because you bust your ass for him and no matter what the reason, I know it hurts you
Thanks! He is jealous of DD3
Thanks! He is jealous of DD3 and if I try to love on him like I do her he just pulls his mama crap. She has only seen him less than 25% of his entire life and she walks on water. UGH! I don't want to love on him and treat him nice any more cause all he does is act like I don't count the minute mama shows up. Sorry SS that mama doesn't know how to love you and be a decent parent but quit taking it out on me and DD.
I worry about what will happen when we have another baby.
I feel you pain! FSS is the
I feel you pain! FSS is the same way. The incubator pops in and out. She is currently knocked up and "sober" at least until this baby is born (2 months to go!) but as soon as the baby is out she will be gone again and I get to pick up the pieces AGAIN.
It is so much harder when they dangle that false hope of security, just stay around and do it right or F-ing leave! That is all I want. I am lucky though, we don't actually HAVE to let him see the incubator- she gave up rights willingly during one of her drug benders.
But if you ask FSS6 mommy is the BEST! GRRRR... I just want to scream sometimes- NO! Overworked is the best. She cooks for you, gives you a bath every night, tucks you in and kisses you good night, I am the one that goes to teacher conferences and helps with homework. I rush home from work so you don't have to spend an extra minute in child care. I play taxi so you can do sports. I DO IT ALL FOR YOU! The incubator takes you to chic-fil-a once a month for dinner with your 1/2 sister. That doesn't make her shit.
ahhh a woman after my own
ahhh a woman after my own heart.
You get it! Too bad it still sucks for us. At least I have DD who sees it at 3.
He is NINE... he is sick...
He is NINE... he is sick... give him a break.
Thanks Bookish! I hope CSA
Thanks Bookish! I hope CSA didn't think I went off on SS. I did tell him to stop crying because he was a big boy. He is going to be so bullied in school if he doesn't toughen up.
Is it ok to say I love you
Is it ok to say I love you guys? You make my day so much easier.
This is almost as good as the
This is almost as good as the blog you guys hi-jacked earlier with the DD's! Just keep them coming!
No he has blisters but no
No he has blisters but no fever and quite the appetite. He is ALWAYS whiny and cries for his incubator. He threw a class A fit one day because we had plans to go out and run errands. He wanted us all to sit home all day and wait for incubator's plane to land and her to drive the hour or more to our house. We told him she wouldn't be there for 9 more hours but he had a meltdown that was worse than anything DD3 has ever pulled so no he doesn't get the he is sick and needs a break. He does this crap every time. Maybe I would give him a break if this was not standard operating procedurce every time he thought he might not get to see incubator.
I grew up w a stepparent that
I grew up w a stepparent that gave me everything i needed and raised me like i was his kid.My father was/is a loser.But I would have gladly traded my stepfather to get my father to be in my life.I can't explain it but I do understand where the kid is coming from.Doesn't make it right though.
I guess it goes along with that whole mommy/daddy fantasy that kids have when one or both parents are pure shitheads.They idolize them bc they want to be like everyone else and have a normal mom n dad.
It sucks but they DO grow out of it eventually.
I wanted to live with my
I wanted to live with my mother, got my wish and within three months I wanted to go back to what was my home. It didn't take me long to realize she was not my mommy. I always fantasized my dad wasn't a POS but not the parent I actually was with and saw first hand. This is what amazes me about the situation, he bitches about how she treats him and he still acts like she walks on water.
My ss14 still has not grown
My ss14 still has not grown out of wanting his mommy. He wanted nothing but to go live with her for years-finally got his wish at age 9-lived there for 4 years and realized it was not all that it was cracked up to be-however he STILL acts like she is awesome-he makes excuses out the wazoo for her and it makes me ill.
For example he needed a new pair of shoes fairly badly. We live in a small rural area-there are literally no shoes stores within 60 minutes of us. So we had to put off buying him some until we could take a trip to the nearest big city-he's also very picky so dh wanted him to be sure and come with to pick them out. In the meantime-he goes to bm's (first time in 4 months)for one night. She apparently asks if he needs anything (she pays no cs)-he says no-despite asking us multiple times for the shoes (bm lives IN the city that we would go to to buy shoes AND works at a SHOE factory and gets 40% of all shoes at the store)but he didnt want her to have to spend the money on him! She kept him for one day and then brought him home the day before mothers day. She spent mothers day celebrating with her other children and extended family because there was "no room" for ss14. He thought this was perfectly reasonable.
I had a hard time years ago when I was doing the primary parenting of ss-no matter what an awesome job I did as a stepmom-the bm was still number 1. I've just accepted that it is what it is-as someone else posted-those biological ties really DO matter. On the flip side I invest far less of myself in ss now as I know he will never really appreicate it.
I invest far less of myself
I invest far less of myself in ss now as I know he will never really appreicate it.
I feel the same way!
they don't appreciate it at
they don't appreciate it at all. sd has even had the nerve to complain about things i do for her. so stopped over 3 years ago. for all the bitching and complaining she did about what i DID do for her, she sure does seem to notice and not like that i don't do it anymore. i guess they want it both ways. they want everything we have to offer, but they reserve the right to take it thanklessly and shit on us for even trying. yet they expect us to keep doing it. there is something in these asshole skids brains that is not firing like it should be.