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I texted my assband this just now

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Submitted by findingserenity on Fri, 06/08/2012 - 1:22pm

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I dont expect nor ask u to teach me how to drive as u have made it clear u wont teach me nor support me on driving, I am looking for ways to learn on my own and u suddenly not letting me go on base to do laundry with u is a form of blocking me to learn. my ability to drive determines a lot my ability to go to work, to function as an adult and as a parent, to help my family back in my country, to pursue my dream and further my education.
U cant support me with my needs nor goal, dont expect support from me as well, unless it concerns our son and daughter, I am disengaged.

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Submitted by findingserenity on Fri, 06/08/2012 - 1:24pm

I made an ads where I put my number and if anybody is interested to teach me how to drive. I was gonna post it on base communty bulletin board but husband found it and decided not to bring me

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Submitted by janeyc on Fri, 06/08/2012 - 1:28pm

What a selfish idiot, why has he decided not to help you, is it because he likes to keep you reliant on him? This is not good.

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Submitted by janeyc on Fri, 06/08/2012 - 4:47pm

When you love someone in a healthy way, you want to help them and support them, you deserve better than this, maybe an ultimatum may help? I complain about my bf God knows he's not perfect but he would never do what your SO did, Im so glad you stuck up for yourself, please keep doing it.

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Submitted by SASX on Fri, 06/08/2012 - 1:30pm

What Base?

My DD has a lot of "aunts and uncles" people her dad served with that are at bases scattered throughout the country. If your at one of them I might be able to find you a driving instructor.

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Submitted by findingserenity on Fri, 06/08/2012 - 2:37pm

Please if anybody here lives near andrewa afb and can help me learn how to drive, im wilking to pay

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Submitted by Gabriels Mom on Fri, 06/08/2012 - 2:50pm

My BIL just moved from AFB to Langley I can ask him if he knows anyone or I can ask my sister if she knows any of the wives that might be able to help you out.

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Submitted by Mrsbmckee on Fri, 06/08/2012 - 3:43pm

I am so sorry it has gotten to this for you. I know how hard it is as we are in a very similar situation. Good luck on learning how to drive. Hopefully you can learn and gain some independence from this jerk.

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Submitted by findingserenity on Fri, 06/08/2012 - 4:16pm

Yes, its very hard to find help, it may seem.trivial but its like having no feet and hands. And I cant go to work nor do geocery nor bring kids to park and daycare nor pediatrician.im an adult but im being treated like a child

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Submitted by findingserenity on Fri, 06/08/2012 - 6:27pm

Hes not active duty and fap cant help me, I already called them. Talk to vawa and refered me to shelter who wont take me as I am not in imminent danger.

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Submitted by findingserenity on Fri, 06/08/2012 - 6:29pm

Nope.he picked the wrong asian bride. He thought asian women are submissive, as he couldnt control his exwife who is american, he decided to try asian.but he picked the wrong one.

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Submitted by Orange County Ca on Fri, 06/08/2012 - 10:16pm

Asian women become americanized quick as a wink.

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Submitted by findingserenity on Sat, 06/09/2012 - 5:23am

Uh no..im not americanized, Im just not dumb and I stand for what I belueve is right