So I decided to go to therapy and good thing I did.

Told therapist what was going on, what happened on our weekend and she told DH how wrong and disfuctional it was for him to constant be part of that drama. It was so great to see DH's face when the therapist pretty much told him, not in these words but meant the same, you are an idiot and a horrible parent who is hurting his daughter instead of helping her.

The session was mostly with DH and how he needs to step back and try not to feed the problem which is what he is doing. I looked at DH at one point and he looked :O .....He also told therapist he thought he was helping SD and thought things would really get better. But therapist told him this will never happen as long as you continue this pattern. She told him he is loosing his family including his daughter if he continues.

The session was an hour and most of the conversation was with therapist and DH. She did ask me where I stood as of right now and my response was I really dont know. i am more out than in at the moment and just think i need to be apart for awhile because i can not take anymore.

DH and I have decided with much thought that we will keep up what we are doing (not living together) and only see eachother on sat if phones are off, no talk about SD, and just be about us. That will be our date night. Weekdays are out and once we see that is going well for how ever long I feel than we will move on to maybe 2 days, and so forth..... Therapist thought this was a great idea so we decided to try it. We can talk on the phone but not constant. We need time apart to fix the other things in our lives before we completely fix us. The main ? she had was do we really love eachother and of course we do. i did tell him I do not think his parent skills are even in exsistance but he is going to work on that.

I have to say I felt good when I left. We kissed goodbye and we will see eachother sat. He did call this morning at 6:30 and we decided that will be our talk time for the day. It is a time we are alone...He told me he talked to SD regarding the session and she was not so happy but he told her he will do whatever it takes for us to be together again and she needs to deal with it. She has a session today and he is talking to her therapist regarding all the issues. Time will tell.

I am giving him a second chance. yes this is alot to deal with but I love this man, he is good to my children, loves my children like his own, he does not drink, hit me, hit my children, mis treat my children, disrespect my family or cheat on me. Yes he has his faults when it comes to his daughter but he is a man who's X wife took care of alot while he worked and didnt really spend time being a father. Now he is divorced raising a 16 year old daughter since she was 11 and dealing with alot of bullshit with BM who is a pill popping, drunk who is just a looser and puts SD through alot, i do have to say. i am not making excuses for anything, but i do need to try this last time. If it does not work DH is aware I am done and we will go our separate ways. It will be easy since I was very smart with my second marriage...I have a prenuptial agreement...I was SMART!!!!!! This time around