daisy0202's picture

got a text from SD16......

So around 2:30 today i recieved a text from SD16 stating:

SD:
I can not believe we do not live with you anymore. I think this is crazy you even made us leave and now my dad is forced to go over and leave his family. I know you shut his phone off this weekend, I know you did not answer my calls just to keep me from my daddy. Well I have news for you its not going to work. So leave us alone. My daddy does not love you. He hates you to be honest so sorry to tell you that but its true. He told me himself. So again leave us alone!!!!

LMFAO....Kid you have issues!!!I didnt even answer the text but i did however forward that text to my DH, who immediately called me apoligizing and telling me ignore it, block her number, i am taking care of this and I will be there tomorrow for our date. I love u so much. please do not let tyhis set us back. I am so pissed at her right now. what is wrong with her?

IDK DH but you need to take care of this before you come back. Its time to become a father and stay firm. She has alot of issues here.

WTF???????

3familiesIn1's picture

FORWARD to DH and be done.

FORWARD to DH and be done. Let him deal with it.

This is part of the fallout I was referring to earlier - its bound to happen as mini-wife deals with being put in her place.

Do not respond.

edit:
Man, does she really think you wouldn't just send that on to your DH?

Actually, she does think that - that just shows how far gone she is - WOW.

Its great she is opening DHs eyes to exactly what you were trying to tell him all by herself.

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dtzyblnd's picture

Shes scared. And shes trying

Shes scared. And shes trying to keep him away from you. What that was is a last ditch effort of desperation.

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asheeha's picture

that sounds like my dh's ex

that sounds like my dh's ex wife. she needs therapy and he needs to punish her!

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DASKRA's picture

She has daddy issues or is

She has daddy issues or is her BM who is doing this?

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daisy0202's picture

Shes in therapy. Have no

Shes in therapy. Have no clue what they talk about but the therapist thinks she is doing well... Jawdropping!

asheeha's picture

doing well? by what

doing well?

by what standards? @@ rolls eyes. well we'll see what dh does.

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CrazieCoconut86's picture

I think you need to forward

I think you need to forward that text to her therapist. Show him that she is NOT doing well!

DASKRA's picture

agreed... she might be

agreed... she might be telling the therapist what she thinks will make her happy and make it so she can stop going.

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realitycheckmom's picture

Yes the therapist needs their

Yes the therapist needs their rose colored glasses removed....

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daisy0202's picture

Sd is

Sd is

daisy0202's picture

You know I feel bad for her

You know I feel bad for her at times to but she is making my life a living HELL....So the feeling bad for her is slowly going away!!!!

smdh's picture

Yeh, McCrazy's therapist said

Yeh, McCrazy's therapist said she was coping, as well. Some therpists are douchefucks.

I hope you dh makes it clear to her that he turned off his phone and why.

realitycheckmom's picture

It's not always the

It's not always the therapists fault. Some people are good at lying and faking to the therapist.

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smdh's picture

Agreed, but this girl clearly

Agreed, but this girl clearly can't hide that she thinks she should be the center of attention. Some therapists aren't good at their jobs. And some therapists are better equipped to handle different types of issues. I have nothing against therapists, but sometimes they miss the boat. McCrazy's therapist was supposed to help deal with her anger issues. Apparently, they talked about me and my supposed "self-esteem" issues. THe woman never met me, but somehow I was the problem because McCrazy said so - despite the 5 other mental health care professionals who thought McCrazy needed individual therapy for her issues.

daisy0202's picture

I hope so...But its out of my

I hope so...But its out of my hands and if my DH wants this to work he needs to do something and he knows that. he never thought i would make him leave because of his daughter...SURPRISE!!!

Charly's picture

What is he doing to stop this

What is he doing to stop this behavior??? I would take her phone away. If she cannot respect boundaries such as not calling 100 thousand times when daddy is out of her view, or sending awful text messages to her daddy's real wife, I'd be taking that phone away asap. Doesn't sound like she has any friends, doesn't go anywhere, no need for a phone.

3familiesIn1's picture

Keep us posted on what he

Keep us posted on what he does to take care of it.

I agree with Charly - but first she should be required to use the phone to CALL you and apologize.

Man, this little girl is in for some big changes.

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unsure99's picture

When I was 16 years

When I was 16 years what/where my parents were was the last thing on my mind!! This girl is not doing well, I agree she needs a new therapist. If that text don't open DH eyes to what she is doing nothing will.....

oneoffour's picture

I think you did the right

I think you did the right thing in ignoring ehr and forwarding her message. This is confirmation that his daughter is interferring in his life in ways he did not ever think she would and the murkiness that has become your marriage is clearing and he is seeing his DD exactly for who she is.

She has issues and her father needs to get these in hand very quickly.

Willow2010's picture

what is wrong with

what is wrong with her?
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Your DH and his lack of parenting.
I would beat my kids ass for sending something like that to the person I love. I don't care how old she is.

ThatGirl's picture

She's batshit crazy.

She's batshit crazy. Hopefully this text will prove it to him and he'll be able to get a handle on it.

unsure99's picture

LIKE!!

LIKE!!

Helena.Handbasket's picture

well said

well said

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Scubed's picture

I would block her number.

I would block her number.

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3familiesIn1's picture

I wouldn't block her - just

I wouldn't block her - just so that I could continue to forward her hateful messages to DH.

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You are entitled to food, shelter and medical attention. Anything else is a privilege.

Tired...

invidia's picture

Wow - she's something else

Wow - she's something else isn't she.

I also would show this to her therapist. SD is quite obviously not doing well.

Crazy....I hope your DH deals with this crap ASAP.

LizzieA's picture

I think it's great that she

I think it's great that she said such blatant BS that showed exactly where she is coming from!!! Hard to ignore it now, isn't it DH?

EyesOfaStranger's picture

Omg!!! The nerve of that lil

Omg!!! The nerve of that lil brat!!! I'm so anxious to know what DH did? I agree with some or the others... She should loose the phone, and you go directly to the therapists office and personally show him the text!

I'm always searching everyday for your blogs.. I feel for you :/
Hang in there daisy!

Delilah's picture

TBH Daisy the next time you

TBH Daisy the next time you see her I would have something to say about what she did. Wouldnt care that DH is "dealing with it". In all honesty I wouoldnt have her back in my home, there are some lines you dont cross and this is one of them imo.

I know its hard because you are disengaging but when you see DH perhaps you ought to mention that DH needs to tell the therapist about SD's latest shennanigans? Difficult I know and am in two minds whether you should broach this as actually it is down to DH to either sink or swim over sd, and your dating time shouldnt be clogged up or tension caused by her actions as thats just giving the silly little girl exactly what she wants. However you also need evidence that DH IS addressing her behaviour with ACTIONS because otherwise how will you know he is making progress with his parenting?! :-/

BTW who at 16 uses the word "daddy"?!!! Shocked Who does she think she is...Miss cutie pie Barbie?...yeah on acid.

StepAside's picture

I think many of us have

I think many of us have received at least one text or email similar to that in the past. In my case, I choose to overlook the obvious teenage angst and try to communicate with some rational talk. Big, huge, hairy mistake. In the years since, upon retrospect, I would have one response...

"If you've got something to say to me, grow up and come say it to my face. Be prepared for a 2-way conversation."

I'd blast them into out.er.fu.ck.ing.space if they said to my face what they have written to me. Which is WHY they would NEVER attempt the direct approach.

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