BM strikes again...this is classic!
About a year ago when BM found out that BF was dating someone(me), she demanded that she met me right then and there. When BF said no, BM refused to leave, BF had to call the police to escort BM off his property.
The day I met BM, she came to pick up the skids and when BF opened the door, she barged in, walked to the living room where I was. BF runned in after her and introduced us. I smiled and tried to be nice to the woman but she gave me the deadliest look. A few months later, after I moved in,I asked BF to invite BM to the house on my behave for lunch so BM and I can get to know each other, be on friendly terms for the sake of the skids. Well she did come for lunch all right but she refused to talk to me, she didn't even say hello and sat there quiet, refusing to answer my questions the whole time. Then when i left the room, she told BF what a terrible person I am!
since then, BM has verbally attacked me, called me names, pointed fingers at me whenever something goes bad with the skids or when they misbehave. she even went as far as to tell BF that she's a better Christian than me because she's celibate and goes to church 5 days a week! (Which is a total lie by the way given that she's been on and off with the guy she cheated with while she was still married to BF)
Anyways, she's tried to make my life a living hell! So last week Bf's lawyer received a letter from BM's lawyer stating BM is demanding that I not be allowed to pick up the skids from daycare. Well BF's lawyer wrote back to BM's lawyer in bold saying "My client's partner will remain on the daycare list as an authorized person to pick up the boys". Off course BM is pissed of! So today, BF received an email from BM saying she has conducted a background check on me. At first I was pissed that I don't have privacy but then I realized wow, it took that long to do a background check on me! I really thought she would have done it a long time ago given all the drama and shit she stired up.
I have nothing to hide so i really don't care. My only concern is if she's somehow able to get a hold of my employer's name and contacts them or tries to pin something on me when she doesn't find anything.
Every single week BM does something to create drama. I'm wondering what she'll think of next week.....
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Yeah, this sounds like the
Yeah, this sounds like the kind of stuff a lot of us have to put up with from psycho BMs with personality disorders. My advise is to establish, or more to the point, get your BF to establish, extremely strong boundaries and never to give in to any of her shit, because if you give these types an inch, they take a mile.
Don't try to placate her - inviting her to lunch was probably never going to work. The drama is not something you ever get used to - I have had 10 years of it - but there are things you can do to make it manageable.
Don't you just want to email
Don't you just want to email her and say..."You did a b/ground check on me? Great! It will match the one I got a friend @ the CIA who did one on you!"
As far as the celibacy ... wel on THAT day she was.
She is a dog with a bone. She doesn't want to be married to your BF but then she doesn't wsant anyone else to get involved. Ignore her and don't reach out to her ever again. It may be a good idea to have a word with your HR dept or your employer and tell them that the ex wife of your partner has had a background check on you and is attempting to cause trouble and may contact them. Just to CYA,