So I have been with my bf now for 6 months now and we have known each other for 10 months now. I have 3 children of my own, one I share custody with his bd. My bf and I are 20 days from moving in together. My bf works out of state for 20-21 days and then gets a 10 day break. During in which those 10 days he gets his bd5 and bs10 normally Fri. night till Sunday night. Lately it has been Thursday night to Sunday night. So if he is home on his 10 days that has 2 weekends he gets his kids 8 nights and 6 days. In his divorce paperwork it states that only him, his family, their bm, and her family are the only people who are able to watch/or be around his kids when he is not there. I have told him I don't like that because I can never take for instance my bd and his bd out for girl time, or his bs and my bsx2 out to do something alone where we can just bond. Or getting any alone time with my bf, since his parents are the only people on our side that is allowed to watch him in case we would like to do something just the 2 of us. Also his kids bm is going to college 3 days a week, lives in a 2 bedroom nasty apartment (says my bf, I wouldn't know) which I know is illegal to have a 10y old son and a 5y old girl sleeping in the same room. Anyways she WILL NOT get on ANY type of assistance. My bf pays her..wait for it..$1,200 a MONTH. I am quite angry about this because of many reasons but mainly because of the situation I was in when I met my bf. I myself have 3 children whom I take very good care of and am on all assistance that I could get. I was in college full time M-F 8-4. My children and I lived off of usually $300-$543 a MONTH, for all 4 of us. I don't want her to feel or use my bf so she doesn't have to do anything. His kids are to bring stuff over to my bf's house since before when he worked in town he would get his kids every weekend. His kid's bm would pack and still packs horrible clothes. Last weekend the 5 yo girl had 24 month old size skirts!! REALLY??! Needless to say we tossed those out. The bm has a very wealthy family who helps their bm at beck and call. She gets student loans every 90 days of in the thousands, plus the $1,200. WTF? I am so confused on how she says she can't afford anything BUT she WON'T get on assistance to make it easier for her and his kids. We think it is a pride issue but I think it's just because then she wouldn't get as much cs if the State knew how much money and help she was getting from her family and the loans from school. Us being a family of 7 when we are all together makes it very difficult to get any nights out alone and also doesn't give us barely any money to get the stuff we need for clothes etc. for us 5.