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Just found out MIL is coming tomorrow

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Submitted by mamamomo on Mon, 02/27/2012 - 2:22pm

At this point I feel like faking my own death to avoid being in the same room with this woman. DH and I had agreed months ago that it would be best if she stayed out of our lives. She has tried her hardest to cause problems for us from the very beginning. She has told DH that he needed to leave me I wasn't good enough for him, that I wanted to control his life, that I he is the man and should make all the decisions if he wanted to buy a new boat even though I said it was a bad idea because we needed to fix the car he should get his boat anyways because he is a man. She told him I needed to drop out of school to take care of SS when I was months away from graduating. When my DH was a truck driver he was only home 4days a month but she insisted that I should be taking care of his child because he was taking care of mine (paying bills). This woman has done everything she can to insult and belittle me and I hate her guts. She only saw SS maybe 4 times last year even though she lived 45 minutes away from us. She does not even try to pretend to accept my children, my parents are way more involved in SS's life than MIL. But the last straw was around Thanksgiving when MIL asked to get SS for the weekend. She called DH while he was out of town and informed him that SS "would not be returning home because he was covered in bruises and we had been beating him she was going to call CPS on us and call my mother and tell her to check my girls because god only knows what we had done to them" this caused DH and I to go into major panic mode I knew there couldnt be bruises all over him but when someone goes that far it still freaks you out. She kept him out of school that monday with her little charade and I waited till DH got home to deal with everything we had to threaten to press kidnapping charges on her to get him back then he comes home with 1 bruise on the side of his leg and SS said he didnt even know where it came from. DH cut ties with her until last month when she called him crying that she wanted to be involved in "our lives". I do not trust this bitch! DH says he has to try because she is his mom and he expects me to be civil with her but I really want to punch her in the throat. My anxiety level is climbing...I really dont know how to handle this one I dont think I can put the past behind me when I expect more problems from her in the future

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Submitted by mamamomo on Mon, 02/27/2012 - 3:34pm

Yes she is coming to my house! I forgot to mention that since DH and I got together 3 1/2 yrs ago she has never been to our house. My home is my safe place where I can be comfortable I dont invite people into my home that I dislike she will ruin that I have to do something about this

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Submitted by mamamomo on Mon, 02/27/2012 - 3:37pm

I am thinking too that they need to meet at a restaurant they can have dinner together I don't want her to know where we live and thanks for giving her the new title BSCMIL!

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Submitted by Jsmom on Mon, 02/27/2012 - 2:44pm

She doesn't need to come to your house. I have a MIL from hell and she is no longer allowed to come to our home...DH can see her if he wants, but not in my house...You can say NO!!!

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Submitted by Unfreakingreal on Mon, 02/27/2012 - 4:03pm

My MIL, SIL, BIL, and every in law in the book is BANNED from our home. We have not seen or heard from ANY of them in 15 months. I would not allow any of those people in my house even if they offered to pay the mortgage!

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Submitted by herewegoagain on Mon, 02/27/2012 - 2:58pm

Will your DH be home THE ENTIRE TIME she is there? Because if he won't, he's an AHOLE! If he is, great, make sure you stay as far away from her as possible. Go out, go to work, take your kids away to the movies, whatever it is you have to do to only go home to sleep and shower.

My DH tried way too many times with his stupid mother. Everytime it was the same "she would change". NEVER did she change. It wasn't until one day we were at her house, actually a rental house we rented from her for a few months and she didnt' realize DH had stayed home that day...She started YELLING at OUR son because my son went to grab a darn DAISY from the floor...there were broken daisies all over the floor because her and her husband were making bouquets...When my DH heard it, he asked me what it was...when I told him to look out the window, and he realized what she was doing, how she constantly lied to him and told him how she just loved our son, blah, blah, blah...he let her have it! We left about a week later and have not been back in almost 2 years now. I don't ever plan on allowing her in my home again.

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Submitted by sandybeach on Mon, 02/27/2012 - 3:18pm

This woman dosnt have your families best interest at heart. In fact she dosnt have a heart. I would not let her alone with my children for one second. Say what you feel if she becomes insulting. She slandered you and your husband. That is a criminal act.

Now do you really want her in your home? How did this happen so suddenly? Your husband needs to learn how to ask you how you feel about it before he commits to this intruder.

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Submitted by mamamomo on Mon, 02/27/2012 - 4:00pm

Thanks ladies for backing me on this one! I'm thinking you guys pumped me up enough that I can put my foot and say NO! BSCMIL is not welcome in my house I dont want to be around her if you choose to thats fine just take it elsewhere.

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Submitted by Unfreakingreal on Mon, 02/27/2012 - 4:04pm

Good for you. You will feel MUCH better knowing that HE can deal with her nasty ass at a local restaurant. She doesn't need to come into your home. For what? I tell you...some people are just really screwed up.

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Submitted by Anonymous_stepmom on Mon, 02/27/2012 - 4:13pm

If someone did this to me over my dead body would I allow that woman to step foot in my home, I don't give a damn who she is, she wouldn't be coming into my home ever again. You should tell your DH that he is welcome to continue a relationship with her elsewhere.

My fathers mother was just like this, I've mentioned it before in another blog I believe. She was a rotten old woman who did miserable things because she did not like that my father chose to marry my mother and not some other woman, she encouraged my dad to physically abuse me and basically acted like I never existed although my brother was the apple of her eye. She encouraged my father to have an affair and approved of it when he did. She was horrible and your MIL reminds me very much of my grandmother.

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Submitted by mamamomo on Tue, 02/28/2012 - 9:26am

UPDATE!

We had it out this morning. After he had me pretty mad I told him I didnt want his BSC mother around my family. Then he said I know you are mad at her and I wont allow anything to happen to the kids. You dont have to try to protect them thats my job. Well he wants the kids to know their GM but he said she wont ever be around the kids without him being right there and he told her if she starts anything else it will be a war. He also said he wont try to include me in anything with his family anymore and I need to learn to stop holding grudges. Then he said she decided not to come she's out of town! and I can live with the outcome I think but I dont have to look at her today so yay!