My partrner, girlfriend has two children who stay every other weekend
Please can someone who has experienced similar problems to what I am about to explain help me with advice.
My partner has two boys, 14 and 16 and they live with there father and visit every second weekend and half the school holidays. Their father is a control freak and drove my girlfriend to the edge to get custody, we have been together 4 years and right from the outset he has told them they do not need to respect their mother.
Now as they are getting older it is getting worse, I love my woman and it makes me very angry to see them treat her this way.
NOW the bigger problem I am not "allowed" to tell them that they must behave and not diss their Mum and if I do the Ex is threatening to take me to court....on what grounds who knows.
We have a little girl of our own and I don't want her to witness this behaviour, what can I do?
- mickg's blog
- Log in or register to post comments
Comments
Nothing.
Nothing.
Be patient. It's a difficult
Be patient. It's a difficult situation & if he has controlled your gf she will struggle to see through it. You could lay it on the line to her regarding bd & the negative influence but It's unlikely to help. The boys ages make court action almost impossible. If you love your woman stick it out they will grow up and leave eventually. God bless & big love to you.
You only have a couple more
You only have a couple more years to go. The best thing, if all else fails, you can take your little girl out on the days they are here. You can also turn it into a lesson in respect for her--my parents always used the criticism of other people's kids as a way to teach me and my sister. 'Oh so and so's daughter is so disrespectful, when she's grown and out in the world this will only hurt her. No one likes a disrespectful person. Thank goodness my little girl isn't like that!' Etc.
If your wife will go for it, have her take visitation elsewhere. Remember to communicate how you feel about it influencing your daughter. Remember to be kind and understanding, but firm as well.
Why are you allowing another
Why are you allowing another man to control what you do in your home?
Your girlfriend has made the choice not to parent her boys. She has spent the last 4 years teaching them and your dughter, that disrespecting her is ok. She has to fix this.