After about 3 weeks of bickering with SO about SD5 and BM contacting us over nothing I have given up, all SO says is that I am making mountains out of mole hills. Perhaps some of the things I have brought up were small things that I could have let go but I am tired of SD doing what the hell she wants, not having a bedtime, always demanding what she wants and SO is so in love with the kid and feels so guilty about not living with SD that he wants to be a Disneyland Dad all the time and make it fun, fun, fun for SD on her visits to us and never parent her properly and so I have given up trying to get him to see his actions are not helping her be a healthy child.

If BM wants to ring, let her, if SD wants to stay up will all hours, let her, if she refuses to eat what we cook and demand something else like crisps and sweets, let SO give them her, he is making a rock for his own back, ultimately his child will suffer in the end.

Maybe the fact that we are trying to fight for some control is what makes us angry and left out, maybe because our parenting skills differ so greatly from theirs causes us to bicker constantly, well from today I AM LETTING GO of any contol over SD, she can do what she wants as long as she doesn't damage my property or speak to me without respect, I am not going to battle with a 5 year old spoilt brat for Daddy's attention, when I am talking she interrupts me all the time and talks over me, FINE do it and I will say nothing, it's YOU SD that will suffer when your older and find that it is only your Dad and Grandparents that worship the gound you walk on, even your own Mother is glad to be rid of you most of the time.

I have tried to make SD be polite, clean and look after her appearance, to respect others and be kind BUT frankly it is a waste of time, your a mardy spoilt little bitch and you are so like your Mother it is scary, you have her bulging eyes and fat face, your nothing like your Dad in anyway.

You know, maybe now I have given up with you, things will get better, I used to buy you clothes as the ones from your Mum's house are so trampy, I wanted you to look decent but it is pointless, your not like me in anyway, we have nothing in common so I will be polite and kind to you but I will do the bare minimum to make it easy for your stays here, basically to keep your Dad happy as I love him and care how he feels.

Your are your own person, I wanted to make you see that there is more to lfie than what your Mother has amounted to, I have a good job, a nice house, a car and money in the bank and good friends. Your Mother lives off of benefits, has never worked, has not a penny to her name and has no desire to enrich your life with experiences, hell she won;t even take you to the park which is a 2 minute walk from the pig sty you call home.

You will most likely end up exactly like her, she is expecting her next child soon, the product of a one night stand, how nice for you all. Another fucked up kid in the world, as if we don't have enough. Another mouth the tax payer will feed.

So good luck SD, I hope as you get older you will see the right way in life and not make a waste of your life as your Mother has made of hers. And don't worry I won't try and take your Dad away from you, he would pick you over me anyday, I know that and now I accept it..................hopefully things will get better for me and your Dad, and you I couldn't care less what happens to you, roll on your 16th birthday.