anyone feel guilty for disengaging?
I hope i'm not alone in feeling this way. Maybe it's just the looks that my H gives me or the things he says to me that makes me feel this way. I was raised better than to ignore people or to treat people as if they dont exist. Then i think of everything that has lead up to make me feel this way and I feel somewhat better.
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No I don't feel one iota of
No I don't feel one iota of guilt over my decision. It was either disengage or divorce or jail time for kicking a 12 year old's ass.
I don't exactly ignore DH's kid. I simply send her to Daddy-kins every time she wants/needs/has to have something. It more of putting up blinders to their crap and letting your DH deal being a parent.
I don't engage her in conversation unless she initiates it (she's 16) but I restrict my comments to that's nice, how does that make you feel, how did you deal with that and what are you going to do? I do not give her my opinions, I do not tell her anything personal about myself and I don't give her advice.
I do step in when DH has got his head up his ass. But that's about it.
Don't feel guilty. If your DH had been supportive of your thoughts and feeling, you wouldn't have disengaged in the first place.
I cannot even be in the same
I cannot even be in the same room as SS without getting physically sick to my stomach. Heart racing and everything. True about the DH. i have tried to explain that to him but he jst says "yeah I should have done more" but still allows SS to run all over him. I have made an appt for therapy for me and DS to help us hate SS less. Or at least deal with his lies. I dont even reply to SS anymore because i feel like everything out of his mouth is B.S.
No, I never did. Do you
No, I never did. Do you think that he feels guilty that you have to deal with his spawn or his ex? How about the kid, does the kid feel guilty for how you feel?
If you aswered "yes" to these questions then maybe you should reconsider your stance on the situation but I know in my case the answer to both is "no". No, I made the choice to marry him so I should just be the punching bag for his spoiled self-centered brats. It's just easier to ensure that you won't kill them if you aren't activly involved. I believe that exactly how I put it to DH the first time he asked me what I was doing.
SS has definitly taken note
SS has definitly taken note to my actions and yes the DH does feel guilty for me raising his evil spawn and he hasnt ever had control over him. Too bad that I didnt know how bad it was until we married. Or maybe i was so madly in love that I looked past it thinking it will work itself out. What was I thinking?
No, I don't feel guilty.
No, I don't feel guilty.
No, I don't feel guilty at
No, I don't feel guilty at all!! I hate it for DH but the two of them together make me want to puke. Too much lovey dovey for me going on. I was raised not ignore people either but when they do it to me I'm gonna do it to them. She walks in the room and will not even look at me. NO have no guilty feelings what so ever!!
I have felt guilty for a
I have felt guilty for a about a few seconds, then I remind myself of those situations that lead me here to begin with. Immediately I am pulled back to reality.
Just keep reminding yourself Why you are doing it.
If your DH is laying on the guilt, that means its working.
Nope! I don't feel guilty in
Nope! I don't feel guilty in the least. I don't have to be playing games with Petunia (SD16). She made her bed, she shall lay in it.