Where to start? Married 3 years.I have a 13DS and DH has a 13 son as well. Then we have a 2DS together. Our love for one another is there. My fulltime 13ss makes me cringe everytime we are in same room. As horrible as that sounds I have finally admitted it out loud to DH. Over the past 3 years ss has consitantly lied, does poor in school, manipulates everyone into doing what he wants, disrespects me, screams at me, balls fists at me, and recently ran away from home. Acts totally fake whenever he is in front of family or friends and pretends to get along great. My DH has finally admitted tht he should have stopped it from the beginning but let it all go. Which has lead to me shutting down to SS completely. (disengaging as its called)Now DH sees it and says i shouldnt act that way telling me I dont treat DS and SS same. How can I when they are nothing alike. MY DS makes all A's in school, knows better than to talk back, and doesnt lie etc. DH has limited parenting with SS in fear that SS will lash out and go live with his alcoholic BM who lives on opposite side of U.S. from us. DH has noticed how happy and different I am during the summer when SS is gone to BM house. Having grown up in a very similar situation as a child in a blended home where my step bro was the bad apple. That causing an end result of my dad and stepmom divorcing. All for best cause stepmom wouldnt allow me and father to have a relationship and very jealous. That being said i cant help but feel that my marriage will end as well. DH and I are not on the same page in our parenting style. I dont know if I am strong enough to endure this anymore. DH will not communicate with me about this and refuses to accept the fact that SS actions have cause this end result of me blocking him out. I even told that to SS. Can anyone give me any advice to help DH understand where i stand on this.