for couples counseling.

FDH and I have been talking more - mainly because I have been starting the conversations about our life together and what it will be like. I was so angry with him Sunday morning and he didn't like it. He panics at every little thing - it's okay for me to be a little bad some times.

So this is what started it, the night before we were in bead and we were talking about our plan to try for a baby after the wedding. He went on to explain to me that after the baby is born WE need to make time for all the kids to get their share. We have been dealing with SS6 and his mommy issues for months. Basically BM ignores him and smothers SS4 so when he is at our house he craves a woman's attention. I have complained about him hanging on me all day and it wears me out.

In my mind what FDH was suggesting was that I set aside time away from my child and my responsibilities because BM is retarded and can't mother her own child. So now my child has to 'suffer'. Now I won't ignore SS6 but I don't feel it's my job to smother him, he HAS a mother.

I explained it to him that SS6 and SS4 - thank to BM wording - have 2 dads and a 'me'. My child will only have 1 mom and 1 dad. SO how is that at all fair for my child to only get a 3rd of my time when SS6 gets half of 4 peoples time. (or is supposed to any way)

Then as if that wasn't enough FDH admitted that he doesn't like to talk about things that bother me because h now knows how it ends (divorce), that is seriously a little dramatic.

But I am not with out flaws. I just want to understand what he expects of me when it comes to his kids - because we clearly are not on the same page.