I had a talk with DH about how I have been feeling and how I don't want to take my anger and resentment out on a defenseless 5 year old. I let him know that I don't want to bog him down by complaining all the time and that it's time that I see someone to talk through my issues.

To my complete surprise he agreed and suggested that we both go together. He said that he knows he harbors alot of guilt because he is not able to be there full time and that's why he spends all his time with them trying to make them happy and is reluctant to discipline them. He even acknowledged that it is not a healthy way to raise a kid. He also said that he wants to be a better dad and that the only way he can do that is if he gets over the guilt he feels for them not being able to grow up in an intact family.

Score one for stepmoms around the world! I think every time a guilty daddy comes around, a stepmom loses her horns.

I hope we really follow through with this, but I have no clue on how to find a therapist that specializes in stepfamilies. Any suggestions on where to go??