Talked to DH about BM
So last night sat DH down and told him BM called me at work and wants to be friends and get to know me and blah blah blah... His response :jawdrop: "are you F'in kidding me? He was not happy at all and wanted to call her that minute to tell her to cut the shit!!! I told him lets just ignore this one but if it does continue, be my guest...The rest of the night he was pretty BS about it...But after talking he felt a little better and I changed the subjest to more positive things and today is SD's first therapy session....He wanted me to come with them but I am thinking this should be them right now. What do you guys think? I fell if the therapist needs me to come in I am more than willing but right now I think this should be DH who goes first. His appointment is first to discuss whats going on than SD's turn....I do not think I should go...Opinions please...
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I think you should do what
I think you should do what you feel comfortable with. If your husband wants you there with him and you are comfortable being there as his support, you should go.
If you think that your presence will be a distraction to the issues that need to be dealt with, you should not.
DH takes SD13 to counseling
DH takes SD13 to counseling sessions without me. BM really needs to get her fatass in there soon. I do feel that the time will come when I need to be involved there, but I don't think that time is now.
SD needs to heal the relationships she has been in the longest first.
And although the counseling is not moving along as quickly as I would like, I have seen some positive changes in SD.
I only went to my SDs
I only went to my SDs counseling when the counselor requested me to be there. Eventually the topics got around to the relationship between me & SD so he wanted to get my perspective.
My suggestion is to to stay on the sidelines until the therapist requests your presence. The priority should be SD's primary relationships with her BD & BM.
That said, I have no idea of your situation and am only projecting based on my experience.
Thank you....I think I am
Thank you....I think I am going with my gut here and not going to this one. When I am needed I am willing but right now her issues need to be dealt with and there are alot....
SD has no issues with me as I
SD has no issues with me as I know of.....We talk, she is never pissed at me or bitter to me, some comments but mostly if she wants dads attention...Her main issue is her BM, being way to attached to daddy at age 16 (which has changed since new boyfriend came in the pic) and thinking she has all these illnesses, being out of school because of anxiety attacks she says she is having but once home is fine....But main issue BM popping pills and not paying any attention to her...She needs all attention on her AT ALL TIMES and if not she will make attention to her...No matter what she needs to do to get it...ex. she told her father she thought she had cancer and made him take her to the dr. She complained everyday till he took her. Once there and theres nothing wrong she dont believe the dr. and now thinks she has a brain tumor because she gets headaches...But its every single day is some illness, some drama, some BS with BM....its unreal... But I have to say lately with new boyfriend, all her BS has gone because boyfriend pays all his attention on her...LOVE THAT KID RIGHT NOW!!!!!
LMAO...The man is the heard?
LMAO...The man is the heard? That makes me laugh because what i see is the woman is the strength....Without us cooking, cleaning, taking care of the children,home, and working full time jobs where would these men of the heards be? I love my DH so much but I am sorry he would be lost without a woman...before me after his divorce he was living with his mother who again a woman taking care of him.... We might not be strong in muscle wise but we are the rock of a relationship....We handle all the BS