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My 8 year old step-daughter

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Submitted by kimj88 on Sun, 12/04/2011 - 6:34am

My husband has 2 daughters from a previous marriage. The 4 year old is very respectful and is a joy to be around. Well on the other hand the 8 year old doesn't show me any respect. For example, if I tell her she can't have something she will ask her father anyway like she didn't care what I had to say. My husband and I have been together for 5 years now and this has been a problem since then and I am getting to the point where I don't even want to be around her. I have spoken to my husband several times and I keep getting the same answer "they're just kids." Does anyone have advice or suggestions about my situation?

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Submitted by Dragonflyo226 on Sun, 12/04/2011 - 7:59am

You're not raising "kids," you're raising adults. What they learn now they will carry through life. Every time he contradicts you, he teaches them NOT to respect authority; that means teachers, bosses, and even him. If he wants to have dysfunctional kids who hare maladapted, than he should just keep doing what he's doing; if he wants psychologically healthy kids, he may want to rethink his behavior.

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Submitted by Dannee on Sun, 12/04/2011 - 12:12pm

Dragon Fly could not say it any better.

The key is in your husbands hand..
The 4 year old in time will learn to do just what
the 8 year old is doing.

You need to put a firm and sturdy foot down..

Either you two are team players or there is no team....

Your marriage can easily fall apart over this..

Good Luck