My first marriage failed after only a year. It would be seven years before I found love again. Not having any children of my own, I was excited about being a stepmom to five adult children ranging from 21 to 26. Their parents had been divorced a while and both had dated. My husband's ex recently remarried to man she dated three years. When we spoke with the children about our marriage they seemed excited and even positive about it. One daughter sent me an email letting me know she had not seen her dad that happy in years and knew it was because of me. However, when you look at their fb pictures, it's as if their father and I don't exist. You see plenty of pics of their mom and her new husband, but none of their father. This hurts him deeply and that hurts me. The only time they come around us is when they need a babysitter or money and obligatory holidays, in which we get pushed to another day, not the day of. We have been understanding, haven't pushed the issue, and take what they give us. It just seems like something needs to be said, but what?