Ok so here it goes, i'm head over heels in love with my boyfriend, he has two kids, that were the product of a long term relationship. the oldest son is 11 and his youngest is 4 both of them hate me, the oldest has recently informed me that next time him, myself, and a frying pan are in the same room he will hit me in the head with it. his younger son mostly doesnt know what to think of me, he kinda likes me but sees how his brother acts towards me and wants to do the same, i think this i smostly because their biological mother bad mouths me in front of them and so forth. please help, i want to get both of his sons to like me, i just dont know how. i know how they feel because growing up with divorced parents and my moms boyfriends coming around, i get it but eventually i mellowed out. please if anyone out there has any advice they'd like to share with me that's be teriffic.