Don't drop the ball on fatherhood...
One of our local channels just posted this video made by The Virginia Dept of Social Services on their FB page. Thing is, they seem to only direct the message toward dads. Sadly, the agency pointing fingers at dads play a big part in knocking fathers out of childrens lives themselves.
If only this could be a motto directed to EVERYone in our courthouses. Dads, BM's, lawyers, counselors, judges, DSS, etc.
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This is a constant theme
This is a constant theme which ignores (on purpose) the white elephant sitting in their living room.
That BMs often PUSH dads out the door while picking their pockets at the same time through CS. Dads often give up in hopelessness after the BM has denied visitation for the umpteenth time with zero consequences.
I feel that due to 2nd wives experiencing the tail end of endless injustice through the "family" court pro-golden uterus process, the system will slowly change.
It irriatates me one, because
It irriatates me one, because kids who need fathers don't get to have them, & two, because people attack the absent fathers instead of attacking the BM's, lawyers, judges, etc who have made it impossible for these dads to be active parents.
Certainly there are a number of men who do choose not to be active in their childrens lives, but I think the video needs to be done in a way that sends a message to everyone about the importance of fathers in the lives of children rather than aiming it at fathers alone, who opt out of parenting.
It could go so much farther if they'd present it to the big audience instead of pointing fingers at one group.
I can't believe, that with the group just on ST, there isn't more being done to protect the father/child relationship, but everyone will jump in on the "Bash the Deadbeat Dads" cries.
How about a video aimed at money-hungry BM's to GET A FREAKING JOB SO YOU CAN DO YOUR PART TO PROVIDE FOR YOUR CHILDREN!
I just see this as another boost behind the POS BM's who sit on their asses collecting CS & bitching because it can't come fast enough but won't give themselves a break & let the kids them a few days with dad because then she'd be giving dad something he wants. God forbid!!!
I have seen both sides of the
I have seen both sides of the situation. Neither is pretty.
My DS21's bio-father fled the state when he was 6 months old to try to avoid paying CS. He wasn't found until DS was almost 10. He has never once talked to my son nor sent any Xmas or Bday card. He finally talked to him (via Facebook) once he was over 18.
Then you have crazy PB who has actively PASed out the skids against their own dad. What has DH done that is so horrible? He didn't wait around after the LAST time PB and him broke up. HE moved on. SHE did not. He has paid CS since the day each of them was born (even though they all LIVED together for a while) and he is not much more a part of their lives than the loser SpermDonor who chose to try to get OUT of his financial obligation.