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Dose any one wish they didnt have step kids?

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Submitted by Hbuckbailey on Sun, 11/20/2011 - 5:45pm

I have 2 admit I love my step kids but I would not be as stressed out if they where either my own or not there..

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Submitted by planningMyEscape on Sun, 11/20/2011 - 5:46pm

Ummm...ME ME ME!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Sometimes I fantasize about life w/out stepkids.... Smile Smile Smile Smile Smile Smile Smile

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Submitted by frustrated-mom on Sun, 11/20/2011 - 6:20pm

Every day. I don't regret marrying my DH since I love him very much and he's a wonderful man.

But when I first met my future DH, he was fine with being a dad a few days a month to his sons and seeing his daughter a few times a year. I didn't have a problem with that and it worked great. But dealing with the non-stop problems and the skids on a daily basis - I didn't know that was what I was getting myself into.

DH's ex (the BM of the two boys) got married to her long-time boyfriend last summer and they're expecting a baby. The boys love their new stepdad and my DH gets so jealous. DH could easily just let the new stepdad adopt the boys and walk away, but he won't. I would never tell him this but it would be a dream come true for me if he would.

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Submitted by Hbuckbailey on Mon, 11/21/2011 - 6:11pm

yeah tell me about it when my husband where dating he would always send the kids to there grand parents then after we got married he stop having any time for me it was his two boys under us all the time than my husband pipes up and says im not good unuf one night when i was asking his what was going on be tween us. he told me that i was insufficent. i asked him how and of all things i hered was your not doing enuf for my kids. I have spent the last two year being the fill in mom and Dad while the both get to do what they want and when things dont work out they blame me i have to admitt i feel like ive been putting my skids before my 1 year old who is getting behind in learning day to day thing already just to keep my husband happy I regret ever married him and wish these kids would go live with there mother be cause all the skids do is complain and wine and get in to trouble and there father lets this go on and on till all there is is kayoss and out of control house that he leaves me to fix and clean up than gets mad when i go against his wishs to keep what little strutcture there is in this home.

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Submitted by nola2011 on Sun, 11/20/2011 - 6:20pm

I love mine too but I don't like them lately. My life would a whole lot different if I had married someone without kids already.

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Submitted by krazykate12 on Sun, 11/20/2011 - 7:00pm

I wish that all the time. I love my husband with all my heart and I really do care about my SD but I just can't help but to think of all the stress and frusteration that I wouldn't have if he hadn't had her. Life would be so much easier. We would have more money, we would be able to do whatever we want on whatever day we want, we wouldn't have to spend as much money on gas and we wouldn't have to deal with lawyers, court or a bitter and selfish BM. BUT we wouldn't have SD either. Some days I would trade her in for no more stress, but when I watch how wonderful she is with her little sister (BD 15months) I am glad to have her in my life.

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Submitted by Blue stepmother on Sun, 11/20/2011 - 8:20pm

I really wish I didn't have any, because we have had them full time, full custody for 6 years!!!! I don't feel guilty at ALL! I have turned my life inside out and upside down for them, and had NOTHING except grief and misery in return.They are always there. They can't even develope lives of their own. What has been my sanity? Trips away, and DISENGAGING BABY! Can't wait till they are out of the house.

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Submitted by princessandthepee on Sun, 11/20/2011 - 9:00pm

Amen!

God life would be easier without them. But we deal, huh.