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Submitted by Mavis29 on Tue, 10/25/2011 - 3:23pm

Felt that I needed to vent having just returned from a night out after being made to feel like the woman that you barely see and most definitely shouldn't hear. I took it relatively calmly with it being the SO's birthday but inside I'm dying of embarrassment and humiliation. The SK's have no table manners and it's a competition as to who can shout loudest. I'm embarrassed to be in their company but to then get accused of nagging when I am invited into the conversation is just too much. So to prevent any scenes, I disengage and this is greeted with sarcastic responses of you've got nothing much to say have you.
What do you want of me? I can't cope with the attitude and behaviour change from him and don't know how to deal for the best. It's times like this when I feel like throwing the towel in and just walking away but the times when it's just us stop me. To top it all I get no appreciation from the SK's for the costly meal I just paid for. Aaaargh

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Submitted by ThatGirl on Tue, 10/25/2011 - 4:17pm

Next time, let him celebrate with skids alone. I've made it a point to separate myself from these scenes by encouraging SO to "spend quality time" with skids and then we can have our own/alone time together at another time.

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Submitted by hismineandours on Tue, 10/25/2011 - 4:38pm

Yes, I've been the invisible woman for years when it comes to ss13. Unfortunately he cant quite pull it off. When he enters the room and sees me in there he will abruptly turn around. To really carry off the invisible theme he should just pretend he doesnt see me. Perhaps I will suggest that to him.

To me there is nothing worse than this feeling. To be ignored and avoided so completely by someone that you help to care for on some level-whether that be financially, picking up after them or whatnot. My ss used to scream at me daily-this was horrible. It truly was. It went on for years-but at about age 10-he stopped and just started acting as if I didnt exist. I think I preferred the screaming. There is just something so degrading about being treated as if you are not worthy of there time or consideration.

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Submitted by Mavis29 on Tue, 10/25/2011 - 5:21pm

My wallet rarely opens for them and tonight I remember why. Thanked him for being the only one to thank me for the meal, still waiting for the devil spawn mind, won't hold my breath. Think I may heed the advise and leave them to it in future. It'll be to their detriment in the end.

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Submitted by jojo68 on Wed, 10/26/2011 - 9:48am

I know what it is like to be invisible...
SD11:
Daddddddddyyyyyyy..dadddddddyyyyyyyyyy! What are we having for dinner (when I am the one who does the cooking)

Dadddyyyyyyyyyyy...what is that? (when referring to something that is very clearly something I cooked or bought)

Dadddyyyyyyyyy...I love you!!!!!!!!!!! Good night daddy!!!!!!!!!!!!I love you!!!!!!! (3 or four smootches) Will you carry me????????

Dadddyyyyyyyyy...will you take me to Friend's house (response: No I can't right now)...well tell "her" to take me!

Dadddyyyyyyyy take me to McDonald's and buy me stuff at the store (response: No I am working right now)...well than can "she" take me?

The only time she really addresses me personally is to ask "Where's my Daddddddddddyyyy???"

Everything is my Daddy's room, my Daddy's money, my Daddy's food, ect...I wonder if she realizes that I contribute as much money to the home as her Daddy does?? Or that I even work? I think it is that she is so possessive and can't bear the thought of her father loving anyone but her that she block's out my existance.