Step Parent Disiplining
I need advice on dealing with disiplining step children. I feel that I am the only person that has common sence about things. If a child showing bad behaviour such as:
-talking back, whinning, throwing a fit, rolling their eyes at me, not listening
then why do parents aka the father give in to it. Treat the bad behaviour to treats, giving them exactly what they want when they want?
How do step mothers step back. I feel that I am on my last string. I am very patient, caring person but lately i'm burning out. My SD's is almost 8, and almost 4. The 8 year old is begining to slowly be a problem with not listening and being disrespectful. My BF says when I have kids i will understand what it's like, and thats it.
Any advice anyone on how they dealt with bad behaviours, and the father wanting to be the "good fun weekend dad"?
I have been having alot of
I have been having alot of issues regarding getting DH to discipline his kids. Now that I am expecting, I have an even lower tolerance for their bratty behavior than usual and informed DH that if he does not do something to correct their behavior I will just go stay with my mother every other weekend since the stress isn't good for the baby. DH admitted to me that he just tunes them out and honestly does not hear when they are being rude, whiny, disrepectful, etc. He said that we should write down what the rules are and the consequences and that if he doesn't adhere to his own rules, I can go stay with my mother when they are over. It probably isn't the most mature approach but I couldn't stand the thought of one more weekend filled with disrespectful, entitled step brats.
Well... You can take the
Well...
You can take the perspective that he's right, and disengage and let him handle his own kids...10000%...
Also, considering you're not married to him , that sometimes makes skids act even worse...They don't see you as an authority figure cause you're 'just Dad's girl friend'...and if your SO isn't requiring them to be respectful, it's impossible, IMO...
As far as you not having your
As far as you not having your own children, I'm sorry but that's BS. It doesn't take a person popping a sprog to suddenly realize that heinous behavior is A-Okay...either behavior is acceptable or it's not. The two of you need to sit down and figure out what your "house rules" are so that you can work together towards well behaved children.
If he won't have any of that, do as Sheilded suggested and disengage...I would personally never be okay with specific behavior and if my SO wasn't in agreement with it, I'd either have to find my way to the door or disengage so that it doesn't cause me a headache.
Well it comes down to either
Well it comes down to either have a sit down with your BF and come to an agreement on house rules or disengage. BF and I fought alot in the beginning because I just couldn't fathom his parenting or more like lack thereof. His adult DD's were a shining example of where this got him. But he still acted like a clueless idiot where SD was concerned.
I think actually witnessing someone (me) who parented thier kids and had successful adult children he saw that maybe his way wasn't the best. He now tries harder with SD so she can turn out better.
How to deal with it.... Yeah
How to deal with it....
Yeah I have the answer...
Make him your X BF.....cause if you two are not
on the same page or close to the same page...
You will start to resent him and he will start to resent you.
Parenting skids, bios what ever...
You as the parents have to agree on how, who, what and when...
If you stay on this path, without any kind of agreement you are doomed
for failure....
Everyone says disengage....so you won't get a headace...bull shit...
Disengage or not...do you really want to be apart of a household that you
don't approve of????
When I was just "Dad's Girlfriend" his children RESPECTED me because
guess what.....DAD SAID YOU WILL RESPECT DANNEE or you will be Punished...
A real man stands next to you not in FRONT of YOU..
Good lUck