I can't WAIT for SS to go home tonight!!!
I am soooo annoyed right now! SS4 has been in a pissy mood all day and he is getting on my last nerve. He is being rude, disrespectful, and not listening to anyone.
We went downtown about an hr ago and he refused to get out of the car. He finally gets off and starts demanding we take him w MIL. She owns a store 2 blocks away. DH says no because it's Sunday and it is her busiest day of the week. SS starts making faces and doesn't want to walk and I can tell DH is getting pissed because SS is not listening to either of us.
I try to defuse the situation because I can already sense the explosion to come. I bend down and try to explain to SS that MIL is busy right now but that we can pick her up once she closes up the store. He seems to understand but he still has his sad face so I ask him if he wants to call MIL and ask her if she is busy. He says ok so I dial her number and hand him the phone. They talk a little and then he hands the phone to DH and she tells him it's been slow so it would be ok if we want to take SS to see her.
We start to head over there and no more than 2 mins later DH gets a text "what did SS do and with what authority is your wife scolding him?" I was ON FIRE!!!!!! I can't believe the balls on this bitch! DH texts her back and asks wth are you talking about? And she replies "I have been watching your wife scream at SS for the last couple of minutes so I want to know what he did." I took the phone from DH and wrote "Not that it's any of your business, but SS was adamant about going to see my mom and my wife was explaining to him that my mom is busy right now and can't take care of him. Don't get involved if you don't even know whats going on." I handed the phone back to DH half expecting him to delete the last part but he just pushed send. Needless to say, she did not reply.
Well that pushed me over the edge. I was shaking, I was so mad! Let me mention that since we got out of the car, DH had been carrying SS because first he didn't want to get out and then he didn't want to walk. The ONLY time I even spoke to SS from the moment we got out of the car until we got to MILs store was when I bent down to talk to him, so this is what she must have seen. I was NOT scolding, much less yelling and I was pretty much hugging SS when I was talking to him. I don't see where she got that I wass yelling but w/e.
Anyway, SS is still in a pissy mood and I am pissed because of BM and I just want it to be 9 so SS goes back to BM and I can go back to my life!
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9pm? Holy crap if my Sundays
9pm? Holy crap if my Sundays lasted that long I'd explode! SD goes home by 5 at the latest, but its usually between 2 and 4. It's definitely the age, my sd4 is so whiny, and bm or anyone else better not question anything I say to her. When she's here what comes out of my mouth applies! I'm the adult!
I just reread this and it
I just reread this and it sounds bad.. I would never say anything to SD (directions being given or otherwise) that wasnt in her best interest. She needs to work on listening, manners and being independent.
FDHs parents seem to think they can say whatever they want to her and I feel weird giving directions to SD in front of them (FDH used to live at their house after the divorce with SD coming over EOW). But truth is.. this is my house, and I will have a voice that matters. If FDH wants me to be involved in the fun times and the financial this and that then what I have to say will matter.
Thank you! I was soooo mad! I
Thank you! I was soooo mad! I mean, first off where does she get off butting in if she has no idea what is going on? If she had seen me hit SS or push him or pull him or anything like that (which I have NEVER and would never do) then I think the text would be justified, but really? She had no idea what was going on! DH was pissed too but I asked him, if you say BM's husband scolding SS would you be upset and he admitted he would. This was a shock to me! Obviously if BM's husband was yelling at him or hitting him it would be a problem, but does he not expect anyone but BM to call him out when he missbehaves??? DH said he didn't think of it that way, but he would be angry if he saw it. Maybe it is because I don't have kids of my own, but to me it just seems logical: an adult who is in my kid's life (parent, teacher, aunt, grandfather, etc) and sees him missbehave should point out when my kid does something wrong. I scolded SS once on a trip to the store when he bolted across the parking lot because that is DANGEROUS! If that happened when SS was w BM's husband I would expect he do the same. Again, maybe if I had kids of my own I would be singing a different tune but as long as SS is in my house he has to abide by my and DH's rules and if he breaks any of them, I have just as much authority as DH to tell him when his behavior is inappropriate. The kid is 4 for goodness sake, if he were playing w a knife I wouldn't wait for DH to get home to tell him that is not ok!!!
She was outta line. But why
She was outta line. But why did you take the phone and text for your DH? Isn't he a big enough boy to handle it on his own?
I always figure I want my man to stand up for me withOUT me telling him how to do it (or doing it for him!)
Believe me, it's tough...
I probably should have but I
I probably should have but I was so beyond pissed I didnt even let him react I just took the phone from him. God that woman really knows how to piss me off!