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Just wanted to share what my dh said last night.

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Submitted by purpledaisies on Tue, 09/20/2011 - 11:54am

So dh and I were talking on our way home from getting more supplies for our remodel about bm. The conversation came about b/c we were talking about ss15 and how he got his 'feelings' hurt when he said we were calling him a bad driver. (we were not calling him a bad driver just that he is a teen and he will hot rod and all that comes with that). Anyway bm had texted dh that she needed to talk to him and dh thought it was about me and that bm wanted to try to put me in my place.

Dh told me at that point he had had it with her and was prepared to tell her that purple is his wife and she can say whatever the hell she wants to say and if she doesn't like it she can STFU!

I was beaming at that point and felt so loved and so proud of my dh. He said he was so tired of feeling like he had to not rock the boat with her just b/c he didn't want to fight with her. But now he just wants her to know that purple is not going anywhere and she can get over it. He even bought me flowers and a card!

I could hear the frustration in his voice that he was just so over trying to make peace with her or co parent as that is NOT what bm wants. He came to the conclusion that bm will never let it be drama free or out the kids first and get over that dh will not come back to her. So no matter what dh does bm will always pull this kind of crap and it is up to him to put her in her place not the other way around.

I am just in love right now and thanks to everyone here that I can bounce things off of before I say anything to dh and can come up with a plan so that we are not fighting and dh can see it is bm not him.

oh and when bm texted it was about how ss15 got his feelings hurt and she even told dh that she agreed with everything I said! I am in a happy place right now.

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Submitted by purpledaisies on Tue, 09/20/2011 - 12:14pm

Yes he is. See the reason bm thinks she can get dh back is b/c we were together before they were and we were fighting and broke up for a while. He ran into her as she was his sisters friend and well an oops happened or so he thought turns out ss15 is not his (long story but dh adopted him when he was 6 mths). Dh being the wonderful person he is tried to do the right thing and it never worked out from the beginning. He said all along he should have came back to me. So anyway bm seems to think she stole him from me and she can do it again.

I love my dh so very much he is a wonderful husband and father. It took years for us tom get to this point as he was the classic guilty dad but when I disengaged he saw the light. Long story there and way more to it then tht but I'll keep it short for now.

Mainly I wanted to let you ladies know tht it is possible. I did it and my dh did it and my skids all like me and we have and good relationship. Did take a lot of work though and still a work in progress.