Hi everyone I am new here. Hope someone can help me figure this out. So I have 4 kids that live with me and my DH full time. They are SS14, SD10, BS3,and BS3 (twins) The skids have been living with me now for 6 years and their BM comes in and out of their lives as she sees fit. My DH has sole custody of them but BM went to court when she was 6 months pregnant, and freshly out of rehab and they granted her unsupervised EOW visitation. Before it had been supervised at her moms house. This was in Nov. of 2008. Up until this summer BM and I have had a cordial (hypocritical) relationship. Now we are not talking at all.
So SS14 has been living with me since he was 7. I do everything a mom does. EVERYTHING! I am in charge of the kids. My husband helps but in the capacity of what most dads do. I stay home with the little ones and pick him up from school, take him to Karate, help with homework,etc. So we have been noticing that every time his BM's weekend is approaching he starts acting out, not listening and not following the rules. Yesterday when I went to pick him up, from the moment he got in the car he started to purposely be annoying. Now I know that at 14 kids tend to try to test boundaries but yesterday was exasperating. This morning before going to school he got me so mad because he was playing with his little brothers roughly and we have told him not to do that. I have countless other examples but I would be here all day typing. So my question is does anyone else have to deal with this when their kids go to the other parents house for the weekend? I think I am so upset because we had such a nice summer. His BM was in rehab for most of it and I didn't have to deal with her. But now she is out and the kids are going over there today. Any feedback will be appreciated.