With a newborn, I don't have much time to blog anymore, and I'm trying to focus on MY kids mostly, and DH is being awesome with them, so I don't have much to blog about anyway. However, he called me by the ex's name once again and I'm feeling so shitty inside. He has apologised, he has explained, but I still feel tremendously shitty. We are having some drama with BM, and he was thinking about the situation and what he should do etc and called me her name by mistake.

Anyway, here's the drama. BM has a new bf who's now spending a lot of time at her place. This week, SD & SS were dropped off at grandparent's/aunt's (BM's family) house while BM is at work (yup she got some sort of job and of course didn't bother to inform DH). SD had to come by us for one afternoon, and then DH was supposed to drop her back to BM. Well, SD then informed DH that she has to be dropped back by grandparents because BM is working.

When DH got there, he asked to see SS to say hello, and was told that SS wasn't there. SS was taken back by BM so that her bf could spend time with SS so that they could bond at BM's place, while SD was supposed to stay at grandparents. BM's sister stopped DH as he was leaving saying she wanted to have a chat with him. She was feeling sorry for SD who was pretty much dumped off at the grandparents' hpuse and had figured DH didn't want to have her either that's why he was dropping her back. Well DH told her he had no idea that was the case and promptly decided to bring SD back to our place. BM called her sister to tell her "Do not let SD go with DH" but her sister gave DH her full blessing to take SD.

While he was there, DH called BM to confirm about getting SS for the weekend, and BM said that we will not be getting him because he is taking the time to bond with her bf. DH flipped his lid because we already made plans for the weekend. BM was referring to the kids as HER kids and DH set her straight. She even put SS on the phone to tell his dad that he doesn't want to come for the weekend, which really hit DH hard. For the first time ever though, DH told SS that he doesn't have a choice in the matter. BM said she is not dropping SS today and so DH will have to go pick him up on Sat morning. BM's father, who was there listening to DH talk on the phone to his daughter, asked DH to "Be the better man" and not lose his cool and do anything to get himself in trouble. BM's father said that his daughter is an idiot. Her whole family is pissed at her because of how she is treating SD due to the presence of this new bf.

We have not seen SS in 2 weeks. BM simply refused to drop the kids last Friday, too much traffic she said. She said she would drop them on Sat instead, but then was apparently too sick to drop them. And she wanted them back early on Sunday anyway, so DH just didn't bother to insist. I had 2 wonderful non-skid weekends, but DH had mixed emotions, he was particularly distraught about not getting them on Father's Day.

Needless to say, SD hates her mother's new bf. And she told DH that, "If you had asked to have me alone so that I could bond with SM31, mom would have freaked out."

DH isn't worried that new bf is going to take his place or anything. He's worried about the fact that BM doesn't trust the guy around their daughter. He's worried about the way BM is treating SD (telling her to F*** Off and go to her room when bf is around). He's not particularly willing to give up his little time with the kids to BM and her new flame, but he'd probably agree to some time, if they had the decency to ask for it in advance.