Setting clear boundaries with SS18
After a year of problems with my SS18 I have had it. I came home yesterday and went into his room to grab something and a bong was sitting on his bedroom floor in clear view. I have let a lot slide to keep the peace in my house but that was the last straw. I had a long talk with DH last night and we have concluded a list of expectations/house rules - I typed up a "contract" that all three us will sign and if he doesn't follow the rules he needs to move out. I hope this works because I cannot continue living like this. There are a lot of unresolved issues and open wounds that have never healed - mainly between my DH and I.
Wish me luck!
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So what did you do with the
So what did you do with the Bong??? Personally, if it was me he would be out of my house so quick....I don't want that influence on my other kids.
I made him dispose of the
I made him dispose of the bong...part of the signed "contract" is that there be no pot or paraphernalia in the house - if he breaks any of these rules, he will need to move. DH and I talked to him last night and went over the rules - he didn't say much and kept his head down and nodded but definitely showed attitude when signing the contract. Tough shit - living at our house is now a privilege not a right. My DH kept telling him how "good he has it". We'll see how it goes. But we told him that if he doesn't start showing respect for us, our family, our house - he will need to move. We are trying to support him while he goes to college (in August) but if he can't respect us then he needs to go. His choice - to do the right thing or keep messing up....but there are consequences if he doesn't shape up
Jenw - I love the oregano thing - that's too funny!!!
If you put it in the trash, I
If you put it in the trash, I guarantee he pulled it out....I would have broken the damn thing into a million pieces. If you use drugs like this, they are really attached to their paraphanalia. Good luck.