I have spent sometime reading on here over the past while before I wrote something and I must say, THANK GOODNESS I am not the only one!!! My fiance's ex common law is just like the rest of these other BM's one here. It seems to me there must be a hand book on being A self-centered money- hungry EX. If that is the case I bet the author is mighty wealthy from the amount revenue brought in from its sales. Here I was spending so much time and energy explain my disgust to my parter regarding the going on's of his EX. He has been dealing with her antics for the better half of 10yrs, so for him its water off a duck back. We have been together for 2.5 yrs at this point. We made the decision after dating for a few months that we wanted to make sure we were going to be something serious before I met his son. A yr was what we had decided. So skip forward we now live together are getting married in near future, and have my wonderful SS-5 EOW for the week. I wish it could be all the time! His EX, let's refer to her as That Dumb B***h (TDB) has done everything and anything she can to break up our relationship. She has even tried to get a restraining order against me and my SS so I can't be around him. Obviously, she had no reason for one. Every avenue she could possible take to get rid of me she has tried. She has a teenage daughter from when she was 15, and now she is her little spy. Everything that is said in front of that teen goes back to her. She interogates my SS and feeds him lies and BS about us. Its to the point where he comes home and asks me his SM to help him write a note to his BM asking her to stop saying mean things about me. To top it all off she is also the Fun Mom, no rules, regulations, or anything. It makes his life so complicated for him, and she doesnt care.

Thats a little background information, but I thought I would use this for not only getting advice from those more experienced than me but as a way to release to the world her antics and how much they bother me; so, I am not pushing all on to my wonder partner and filling our time together with her garbage!!

Recently, we heard from TDB's daughter that her hampster had died and she was feeling upset and confused because she had been feeding it and it had water and didnt seem sick. So she did understand how it could die. We reassured her that sometimes that happends with small rodents and not to worry about it. Forward ahead 2 days, my SS is at TDB's house for her dreaded week, its a sunday morning and DH's phone starts going off at 8 am. After a few calls it was hard to ignore so out of bed we get to see what was going on. He had several voicemails from not only TDB's daughter but also SS saying the hampster hadn't died at ALL!!! TDB threw away everything that had to do with the hampster, her son and daughters pet, and put the hampster in a box by the garbage to DIE! Well the kids found it and we histerical because they didnt know what to do and she was refusing to help them... We were asked several times to get it a new cage, but our conclusion was it was not our responsibility to replace it. And after all this somehow TDB made it the kids fault she did was she did because the cage needed to be cleaned!!

Well thats a regular occurence in our life and thought I would share the insainity.