If its not one thing it's another
So my ss is on his ADD medicine this summer and while it does make a lot of things easier he has started acting out in different ways. He has been mean, saying mean things he knows are mean. I asked my DH to talk to him and he was like he knows I've talked to him about it, I said that obviously that didn't work, so then he just acted like since he won't stop he shouldn't be punished because the punishments arent working. So if someone murders someone goes to jail and murders someone when they are released we should just not put them back in jail and let them just murder people? It is so frustrating. My ss knows that my daughter was born before my DH and I were married, no big deal to me we were engaged and had already reserved everything so I just thought we should wait and get married as planned 3mths after my daughter would be born. (We found out I was pregnent right after we got engaged) So my ss has said things in the past about if that was RIGHT or not. We told him it didn't matter whether your parents were married or not when someone is born as long as they love eachother. So today we get in the car after he had gotten in trouble all morning and says its better to be born when your parents are married then when there not right to my daughter, now my daughter is one now so she doesnt' get what he is saying but she will later and I think my DH needs to nip this in the bud right now, my DH was like I talked to him about it before and he just keeps doing it, so I don't know what to do. It just pisses me off I just want to yell at the boy and tell him the only reason his parents ever got married was because she was knocked up and they were 19 or else it never would have happened but I won't because he is really young and it would be wrong. Theres nothing really else to say I just needed to vent.
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No its Focalin, and its not
No its Focalin, and its not really grumpiness its meaness. This was just one example, he didn't use the medication last summer and that was a disaster, my DH didn't want to admit that he had a problem. He always has a little mean streak but he is so busy acting up that you don't notice but with the medicine calming the acting out the verbal things stick out more.
He is about to turn 8, but
He is about to turn 8, but the crazy thing is it isn't his BM. The person who brings this sh*t up is my MIL, ya my husbands own mother told me that my child was going to be a basterd. I think she just wanted a reason to be mean to me, she isn't relgious or anything. I tried so hard to be nice to her and make her feel included because before I came along she was a mother to my ss whenever he was with my DH and she was a widow and I was taught to take care of women who were widowed. But after she called my daughter, her own grandchild a basterd, I washed my hands of her. She is just jealous that my DH would rather live with me and take my advice and have me raise his kid when he is here then to have her do it.
If I thought it was just the
If I thought it was just the medicine I would take him off and deal with the other bad behavior but he has had this mean streak even off the medication, it just seems like when he isn't acting up in the other ways you notice it more. Plus he is on a pretty low dose now, the same he takes for school and that has been cut in half in the last year. The old dosage was bad because he wouldn't eat, now on this dosage he eats fine.
The problem in the mil. Kid
The problem in the mil. Kid is just repeating what he is told or overhead about babies being born to unwed parents or wedded parents. I don't think he really understand why granny is saying "its not right" and you are saying "its ok if we love each other." He does know when he is being mean, but I don't think he understands why the circumstances of your daughter's birth "is bad" . All he knows is that it is bad bad bad because granny said so, but he don't know why its bad.
Tell granny to zip it.