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Re-appearance of the ex-wife (not BM)

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Submitted by jojo68 on Sat, 04/16/2011 - 8:43am

I know I shouldn't have but I opened the computer to check my Facebook and it was still logged on to FDH account and I saw his messages. There was one from his ex-wife (not BM)...she said that she was moving back to the area and wanted to see him and his daughter and then it said it has been a long time FDH name. He did not respond at all to the message nor did he respond to the message from her when she sent him a message on his birthday that said happy birthday and then love, exwife Sad :? :jawdrop: :O :sick: She is not one of his friends on facebook so apparently she "stalks" him and just sends messages. He told me about the Happy Brithday message but not this last one. I don't know what to think...I think I am kind of numb at the moment. Why is he keeping this from me? It is petty obvious that this woman has some type of agenda that isn't positive on my behalf and I am really upset. What do you think ladies...I'm I just being paranoid?

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Submitted by Jsmom on Sat, 04/16/2011 - 9:12am

No not paranoid. Just tell him you saw it and ask him to block her. It is only fair. How would he feel if it were your ex facebooking you? I definitely think you be upfront about it and ask him tostop her communicating with him.

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Submitted by jojo68 on Sat, 04/16/2011 - 10:14am

There's a little more background...couple years ago when myspace was a big deal this same person put very inappropriate comments on his page and he told her to stop and he deleted his myspace over it. Now she re-appears doing a similiar thing with the news of her return to the area. I did not respond well to any of the bull I found out about and that is probably why he isn't telling me about it because he is a afraid of my reaction. I find it sooooooo ridiculous. He had read the message yes and just ignored it I guess...I can tell something is bothering him too...I think he is pondering on whether he should tell me or not. What is wrong with these crazy bioches...she is really nasty and trashy looking too and I'm not just saying that because I'm jealous..it is true...bet she weighs 2 and a half bills easy...lol

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Submitted by NCMilGal on Sat, 04/16/2011 - 10:15am

Why shouldn't you check your own FaceBook? Or was it "shouldn't have" read his messages after you realized he was logged on?

Regardless, if he's already stood up to her once with the MySpace issue, he can and should block her. That's what I did with my evil abusive ex, after reaming him out for daring to contact me and pretend we were BFFs.

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Submitted by jojo68 on Sat, 04/16/2011 - 10:20am

Shouldn't have read his messages when I realized it was logged on to his acct is what I meant :)I fixed it Wink

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Submitted by Rags on Sat, 04/16/2011 - 10:36am

He may not have seen the message.

He told you his XW has FB'd him. You also saw that he has not been conversing with her.

I would not make a big deal over this.

It sounds like a non issue to me.

Best regards,

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Submitted by jojo68 on Sat, 04/16/2011 - 10:50am

Thanks Rags...a man's perspective makes me feel more at ease about the whole thing...I try really hard but insecurity rears its ugly head sometimes.

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Submitted by donna123 on Sat, 04/16/2011 - 10:38am

He should never have kept this secret from you. He knows that! Silence gives consent. Him not responding to her encourages her. He has to write back to her and tell her this: ”I don’t want anything to do with you, do not communicate with me in any way, ever again, or I will get a restraining order against you.” Block and delete her, done and done.