Trying to look at the bright side
Hello everyone. I am the step-mother of 3 step-kids and 1 biology child(from my previous relationship). Actually only 2 of the step kids come, the oldest refuses to come over. Anyway, I've poured a lot of time and energy into trying to make things rum smoothly between both families and I've just come to realize that without both families working together, It's useless. So in order to maintain my sanity I've just decided to focus on things I can control such as the relationship between myself, my husband, and my biology child. I adore the step-children yet I must allow things to happen as they may. Unfortunately the world they live is quite different then what I am use too and will allow at my home. So, I plan things for the family and if the step children choose not to be involved I send them right back to their mother. I've decided to let her deal with the chaos she has created. Now, if the kids decide they want a more healty and structured environment, they are more than welcomed. Until then I choose to move on with the rest of my life.
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Hi, I commend you for
Hi, I commend you for recognizing, for a step there are a lot of things out of our control, and that life goes on. My SD19 has shunned her dad off and on, and finally (it took a long time) he realized too, he can't base his life on what SD/BM think of him and say about him or us.
The fact that all is forgiven if he goes back to them sort of negates the 'abuse' allegations they say about him, from 'before SD was even born' but she KNOWs happened.?
I like what you said too about letting the BM deal with what she has created with all the chaos, and choosing a healthy life instead. You have a good foundation so I feel you are in the best position you could be under the circumstances.!
Is your DH on board and feeling the same way? Sometimes it takes them a little longer.
I like your message at the
I like your message at the bottom. It speaks volumes. To answer your question, yes my husband (I assume that's what DH means) is on the same page as I am.