She was really pissed the time I showed up to participate in a meeting she had requested with DH. She had told him she wanted to talk about "rights and responsibilities" which we took to mean she was going to ask for more parenting time, more money, or both. It turned out all she wanted was to claim SD on her taxes... we tried to explain to her that wasn't allowed per the agreement, and also wasn't fair because SD spends more time in our house. At one point she said "If I have to have her 50% of the time to claim her, I will!" What a messed up attitude.

Anyway, she had not expected me to be there and she really didn't like it when I participated by talking to her and arguing with her. She looked at DH and said "What, you can't talk for yourself anymore? You going to just let Erin talk for you?" He replied to her "I don't need to talk for myself, Erin is saying exactly what I want, and exactly how I feel."

That whole conversation ended up being a huge blowout that I do not want to repeat, including me getting in her face about SD not even having a room or her own bed to sleep in when she stays with BM. Nevertheless it was extremely satisfying to know that at least once, I got under her skin.

The times when BM really pisses me off, she thinks I have no right to be irritated. Like when she's angling to get money or attention from DH, or she's practically abusing SD15 with her wrong-headedness. That's none of my business, yanno.

I did piss her off at Xmas though. I was pissed at her for threatening to withhold visitation and calling us evil and twisted (we don't go to church) I was pissed off at SD15 for screwing up AGAIN so we'd have to spend ANOTHER visit punishing her. I was pissed at DH for buying a car without telling me first.

We pulled up to the drop-off (gas station) and I walked past her without acknowledging her presence. I figured if I had to make nice with her (gag!) I would explode at SOMEBODY, so better to not engage at all.

For some reason, ignoring her offended her. Oops. }:)

If you wanna see fur fly the best way to piss off a BM is to be really nice to “her” children. Do lots of fun stuff, listen to what they say, take an interest in their trials and tribulations, give advice if they ask for it, and treat them with compassion and generosity and you will have a BM madder than a hornet and a war on your hands like you never saw before.

I pissed my bm off sat. She texted dh wanting to know why we were in town just b/c we had 2 skids and she had 1 and we were to pick him up. We told her that we could pick him up in town as we were going anyway. Dh told her it was none of her business, she texted back saying everything is her business. I told dh to tell her that we had sex last night and he can give details since she thinks everything is her business. Dh texted it to her!!! She was not to happy lol!

The fact that I married my Dh pissed her off as well as every drop off ss will hang onto me and not want to go to her.The one time Dh realy pissed her off was when she said why does sm-at20 always come with to ss school meetings and take him to the doctor.I am his mother DHs reply to that was but she cooks, cleans
pays for his doctors and helps him with his speech and work you are ment to do with him during the week so she has more right being with on thoes appointments that you actually do. To say the least she was not happy but the truth hurts...

My simple existence pisses that woman off. When she left my husband I think she thought he was always going to be available for her at the snap of her fingers.