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10 things you hate about BM let's have some fun!

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Submitted by justanothergurlNJ on Wed, 02/16/2011 - 11:27am

1) She’s a drama queen; everything from a sneeze to a scraped knee is life shattering and requires a trip to the ER.

2)She has no clue about the real world. She has NO living expenses, she lives with Gma, rent free, utility free, collects CS works part-time complains she has no money, but buys 180 boots in every color, designer clothes and purses. But you’re broke!!

3)She has NO idea how to be a parent, and has to call BF for everything, can’t get the kids to bed call BF, boys wont listen call BF, one sneezed and the other coughed call BF see #1

4)She is narcissistic, self centered and selfish. Wants what she wants when she wants it. If she does not get it, she uses the “you’re not seeing the kids” card.

5)When she’s bed hopping she is BFF’s with me and BF and isn’t so concerned with sticking to the CO, but as soon as she gets dumped all of a sudden the CO has to be followed to a T.

6)She gives the boys the 3rd degree when they come back from our house, drags things out of them, fill there head with BS about me and BF

7)She scripts the boys on what they say to their father, it has gotten so bad that when we ask the boys what they did at school, they say I don’t know!!!!

8)She has people spying on both mine and BF’s Facebook! REALLY??? How old are you!!!

9)She acts like a jealous teenager; she deleted all our mutual friends on FB, and then requested them all back DUH! You look like a fool

10)She has started PASing the boys because she is a selfish, vindictive little HOHO

I'm sure I'll think of more!!

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starfish's picture

Submitted by starfish on Wed, 02/16/2011 - 11:32am

she lied about birth control and spewed out these things i call ass gnats, that ruin EVERYTHING!

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Submitted by overit2 on Wed, 02/16/2011 - 11:41am

1. She is selfish, narcissistic, lies.

2. SHe is very manipulative, and kniving-takes advantage of sales people, insurance companies, the state, my bf's parents, my bf, she is a USER

3. She is mean, abusive and a bully-she will do whatever it takes to get her way-destroying anyone who gets in her way

4. She is trashy-lets the girl watch completely innapropiate shows on tv, youtube, and the like-raises her with NO moral values whatsoever about decency and common good.

5. She teaches her daughter to be EXACTLY like herself (PUKE)

6. She alienates the girl by bad talking her dad with some pretty cruel and manipulative words.

7. She is such an UGLY person inside and out that no man will touch her

8. Her daughter is NOTHING but a paycheck and way to get her way in life using her kid to manipulate and hurt others -mainly my bf. BUT she claims the "is my life, my world, i only need her, she's all I have" blah blah blah...and turns around and drops her off w/my bf, his parents, her parents, her friends, whomever she can-she rarely spends any time w/the girl.

9. She has quite possibly lied about paternity making a MORE effe'd up situation

10. She has hurt my boyfriend-who is the nicest man I know...that angers me and makes my heart hurt for him. She is a crap person, who has done horribel things to him before and after the divorce and now is screwing up his relationship w/his "maybe" daughter. I hate that she can still hurt him...she is just a BAD person.

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Submitted by skylarksms on Wed, 02/16/2011 - 11:49am

Boy, I should just copy and paste from YOURS!! Except I don't think she is spying on FB. If she is, she is sorely disappointed. H doesn't have one and I post a random thought about once a month or so. Smile

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Submitted by afrazier212 on Wed, 02/16/2011 - 11:51am

1. BM is f-in crazy.
2. Control freak
3. Smashed self esteem on her offspring
4. Abandoned offspring with me
5. LIES, LIES, LIES
6. Selfish and stupid
7. Rubbed her selfish and stupidity to her abandoned offspring
8. Got Child Support Lowered
9. Still blames FDH for everything, and been divorced for 11 yrs.
10. Immature and can't speak for herself, see #6....LOL...
11. Everything about her, EVERYTHING!!
I wanna keep going then I want to print this out and mail it to her!!

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Submitted by karenemoy on Wed, 02/16/2011 - 11:57am

The list is endless - I hate everything about her and I can hope only she gets dumped again by her current boyfriend (who is very nice).

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Submitted by hismineandours on Wed, 02/16/2011 - 12:28pm

Really, nothing. Not that she's a great person or anything she is not-I just dont even care about her enough to hate her. Probably the only thing I could say is, I hate it when she acts like a bitch. Which occurs just randomly for no particular reason. I have only minimal contact with her (by my choice) so am rarely exposed to the bitchiness anymore.
We used to have alot more problems back when I was involved. She saw me as competition evidently and it brought out her worst behavior. Now I just dont interact with her. I wish her a super healthy and long life so that she can continue to care for ss in her home Smile

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Submitted by MadeMyBed on Wed, 02/16/2011 - 12:52pm

1. Expects DH to have to follow the divorce decree but picks and chooses what she has/wants to folloow

2. Calls DH a "deadbeat" to anyone who will listen- this man has never missed a CS payment!

3. Had her family lie to the court to get skids removed from the state- and did it to "punish" DH- GAL's words, not mine!

4. Is so dumb she cannot even read a simple agreement yet has a high-paying important job-wha??

5. Always has either an ugly sour-puss look on her face or the fakest smile you've ever seen

6. Lies to her kids and everyone else on the planet

7. Is ALWAYS right and everyone else on the planet is wrong

8. Blows through money like its going out of style get always claiming to "be on the edge of bankruptcy"- right before she buys a new house! (she owns 3!)

9. Extorts money from her family with fals sob stories (but they are just as bad as her and dumb to always give in and enable her)

10. only ever wanted custody to hurt DH and reap in CS

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Submitted by dragonfly5 on Wed, 02/16/2011 - 1:48pm

Since we are having fun...Bm was just asked if she was FSD10's grandmother!!! Don't you love it. fSD10 told us all about it...made BM so mad! BM is 7 years younger than I am.

We have the same Bm! #1 Never follows the CO. Complains when she wants us to watch the kids with an hours notice and we say no...we do have a life thank you how about advance notice.
Sometimes I think the woman can't read.

#2 My BF has never been late with a CS payment yet she calls him a dead beat to their kids.

#6 oh my lies, lies, lies.

#7 she thinks she is GOD

#8 calls and want the CS early bacause she has spent it all on clothes and designer handbags. At least every couple of months.

#10 My BF pays full child support and still has the kids more than she does.

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Submitted by Jshep on Wed, 02/16/2011 - 1:46pm

1. Her voice...how FDH was married to her for that long w/o gouging his ears out is beyond me. I want to after 30 sec.

2. She parades her daughter around in a "look at me, I'm mom" kind of way. A kid isn't something that you can set on your mantle for display only...

3. She is only a "good" mom when she's in a relationship. When she's single, she'll give her kid to anyone that'll watch her so she can go "party".

4. She only dates guys that have something to offer her...a house to live in, someone to pay bills, watch her kid, etc. It sickens me that she moves herself in w/these men and then SD get's all attached to them and then BM leaves when the next best thing comes along.

5. She buys her kid off. SD comes over w/new stuff all the time, but BM can't pay the daycare on her week? Come on.

6. She always asks us for a favor to watch SD for her, but when we need to make changes to our schedule, she ALWAYS has something else going on.

7. She refers to my FDH by his last name...I understand that that is his nickname or whatever, but he has a first name. Use it.

8. When we were teaching FSD how to write/spell simple words, SD thought she wrote Mommy when she actually wrote her mothers' first name. SD said that when she asks her mom to write the word "mom" she writes this (her name). WTH?!

9. She cheated on my FDH and was physically abusive to him, but could be in the running for an Oscar for her role as the victim.

10. I hate that she hurt my FDH so terribly. I'm dealing with an amazing man w/major trust insecurities cause she couldn't keep her top down or her legs closed. He's come a looong way from where he was when we started, but old habits die hard.

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Submitted by Ssamantha on Wed, 02/16/2011 - 2:26pm

1. She floats in and out of her kids lives even though they worship her.
2. She lives to cause drama.
3. She won't get psychotherapy or medication for her mental illness.
4. She is extremely jealous and hateful and has no problems admitting it.
5. She is a liar.
6. She can't keep a steady job and will quit a job when CS catches up with her.
7. She believes that just because me and my fiance work and earn a good living, it absolves all her financial responsibility to her children.
8. She brainwashes the children every chance she gets.
9. She is the most obvious and idiotic person I have ever encountered.
10. She has no idea what structured discipline is...unless you count choking your 7 year old son and cursing him out and covering your daughter's body with bruises.

other than that...she's GREAT!

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Submitted by hbell0428 on Fri, 02/18/2011 - 10:58am

1. How she thinks pawning her daughter off on us fixed her life.
2. She never holds herself accountable.
3. She never calls her daughter or goes to any of her games.

and the rest has a lot to do with DH...

biggest peeve is how NOBODY holds her accountable for ANYTHING she does, says, doesn't do.....whatever!!!!!

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Submitted by purpledaisies on Fri, 02/18/2011 - 11:26am

1. I hate that she thinks my kids are up for discussion EVERY time she talks about somehting she thinks is 'wrong' here.

2. I hate when she seems to think that ss15 is her peer and not a kid! I swear that kid seems to think he can do and say what ever he wants and boss the other kids and take there stuff with out asking and never gives back.

3. She is all about herself and and their image and then try to to get dh to pay half of the nonsense she buys all in the name of being popular and wanting to make JUST ss15 happy!

4. She also seems to think that whenever my kids have a mile stone in their lives her kids should too and have the big party and get the same things. Like when I got my dd a phone for cheer leading so I could keep up with her, bm actually thought we had the obligation to buy ss15 then 9 one too even though I didn't get one for my son that was 11.

5.I hate that she tries to call for other things that have nothing to do with the kids.

6. I hate that she seems to think my dd looks nothing like me but even total strangers will tell us how much she looks JUST like me.

7. I hate that she tried to get her then 3 yr old to lie that my son touched him inappropriately. poor little guy was physically sick and having night mares.

8. I hate the fact that she thinks that just b/c she is mom that automatically trumps EVERYONE including the judge.

9. It makes me sick that she is teaching the boys to that unless it cost a certain amount or came from a certain store that it is not good enough!

10.The worst one is that she seems to think she has the right to control MY house hold! NOT!!!

edit to add that in the op post 1,2,3,4 and 6 are all my bm too! except she lives off CS and the government she refuses to work but yet says she can't b/c she is disabled b/c dh left her to be a single mom!!