I have 12 and 6 yr old SDs and an 8mo old son. The 12 yr old has ran away from her bm twice, been in trouble for stealing from family and friends, is ADD. Now, my hubby wants to gain full custody of her, her mother has full custody now. She is also involved with a group of kids that "cut" themselves"..? My husband isnt the most strict of parents, not as much as I would be or like to see done with the both of them, or what needs to be done. He gains full custody of her this child will be with me the majority of the time. My husband works 12-13 hr days. I dont think I can deal with this. I am at home with my son M-F all the time, and I work every weekend. Recently had a very long converstaion about this, i was told that I needed to do more with them, just the 3 of us, take them somewhere...He doesnt do ANYTHING with them..Why is this being put on me? He also has stated to me that he would like for me to refer to them more as my stepdaughters when speaking to other people...HUH? I never realized that I didnt..OMG..I just cant take the stupidity! He does a crappy job with discipline and all he can think about is me taking them to chucky cheese ! ! HELP!