At the end of last year my ss got himself in some bad trouble, Dec 30th he had pre trial for some charges. Of course he more less got a slap on the wrist for really bad charges (3rd degree felony). He's got 12 months on probation, which mean we are all grounded. Not a big deal to me. He's not in school, they with him cause he wasnt showing up. ?his probation officer told him he's got to get re-enrolled in school or get into a ged program and have a full time job, he's 16 he doesnt want to do anything but get high. His primary parent is with his father. He's refusing to be here, told his po and he said that he needs to be living her with bd, not with his bm. Well he's still with bm and it's been 5 days. my dh says well he'll hang himself, well my thought is get off ur @$$ and make him come here. If he leaves do what his po says and call him it's a violation. He needs to learn rules are rules and laws are laws and they are all created to be followed! Right?
I just read a post asking if we as step parents went back in time with what we know now would we do it again? As much as I love my husband I would have to say no. Cause I want him to man up and be firm with his son and he just doesnt want the stress it causes when he puts his foot down. To me it's called, Welcome to Parenthood! I dont have any children of my own but I was raised around children and i'm soo tired of people saying well it's different when they are ur children. Give me a break no means no and rules and laws are rules and laws. If you break the law or dont follow rules there are consequences it shouldnt matter if it's ur biological child or not. People on the outside see a lot more than bp's do. And i've always told my friends and family of i allow my kids to get away with that kinda crap when i have them of my own, slap me silly. So i'm hoping within the next week things will change.