O/T about new neighbors
I need some advice on this. My new neighbors that moved in about 2 weeks ago or so. Anyway yesterday for the first time we really talked which lead to her talking about her and her husband. She laid it all out on me that they were having problems but she was very vague about what she was having problems with. She was all over the place, never stuck to one subject about anything then she would say I don;t want to talk about but then start talking about how done she is with him and he needs go. she did this all day and night. Then she wanted me to see if I could get her job where I work and asked me in front of her dh and when I started talking about it she got upset and acted like she didn't want her dh to know. :? Then her dad came by and they way he was talking it sounded like she did something to really hurt her dh and it was all her fault.
What should I do? how should I approach her? I mean IF she wants me to help her I need to know what is going on especially since she wants to car pool and work with me.
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I'd just spend some more time
I'd just spend some more time getting to know her without prying too much. I know she wants a job but you really don't want to put your neck on the line either by "endorsing" someone who you really don't know very well....it could end up making you look bad. She sounds a bizarre, IMO!
she sounds really strange!I
she sounds really strange!I would distance myself.I'm not a very neighborly type person I mind my business and my neighbors know me as 'that nice quiet girl down the street' Let her keep her drama to herself unless she can start talking a story that actually makes some sense.
Sounds strange to me, too.
Sounds strange to me, too. I'd distance myself from them. Doesn't sound like they'll be neighbors for very long. Are they renting?
Yes she has lots of issues,
Yes she has lots of issues, she is on a lot of meds too. Plus I think she is a drunk. She was never without a drink. When her dad got there he took away all her beer and told her she didn't need it. It was just the way it all went down that makes me think all this. Not that it is bad thing to drink sometimes but the way her dad did it and the things he said made me think she has a lot of issues. Plus he went in and talked to her dh with the door open and was very nice and sympathetic to him. They have a son that is in the 8th grade and he was caught in one of their little "fights". Their son mowed our yard b/c we had a little dirt bike he wanted so dh told him that if he mowed the yard and got it cleaned up he could have it. Anyway he wanted to take it his uncles house to ride it and since his mom doesn;t drive (why I don;t know) he wanted his dad to take him but dad refused unless mom went and mom didn't want to go and all this in front of us!
when I lived in New York City
when I lived in New York City I learned ignore your neighbors more trouble than it is worth - I have stuck by that pretty well - where I live right now I have 2 neighbors that I am friendly with but still keep a distance between us - this situation sounds like a time bomb - your neighbor needs to talk to someone she has known for more that a minute. This could put you in an awkward position - keep your distance!
PLEASE DON'T GET HER A JOB AT
PLEASE DON'T GET HER A JOB AT YOUR WORKPLACE !!!!!
She just unloaded her life story onto you and you've barely known her two weeks. She talks in circles, gets upset when you mention something... What kind of coworker is she going to be?
I recommend you stay friendly, but not too friendly. You don't want to get caught in the crossfire.
To clarify I have only talked
To clarify I have only talked to her 2 times!! I hadn't even met her till sat. when you son asked about our dirt bike. Then yesterday was when she unloaded all this on me.
I am thinking about telling her I'm going in tonight. (I can go in if I want or not but I normally don't work on mondays anyway).
I do think I'll keep my distance too, I was talking to dh last night about it and I am not going to go over there and ask if she wants to go or not but instead wait for her to come to me.
Hahaha - no advice for you
Hahaha - no advice for you (except keep her at arm's length until you know the whole story).
But it reminded me of when we moved in June.
Within the first week, the neighbors to the north came over and talked to my H. The one said he just got out of jail for dealing drugs :O The other one said that he needed a place to stay for a little bit because he was living with his brother until his brother caught him with the brother's wife! :O :O :O
The neighbors to the south of us are not really neighbors. What I mean is, it is a house for people with chronic mental illnesses to meet while attempting to transition back into the community...! And we've found out that those are the "good" neighbors!!!