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Submitted by priness80 on Sun, 10/31/2010 - 10:31am

i am so tired of BM's shit i know you all are telling m to take it easy and relax for the twins and i am but BM makes it so hard she was suppose to bring SS home an hour ago she does this every holiday she taks SS a day early promising to bring him back on time to spend the holiday with us but she never does she always just brings him hours later without telling DH and DH just puts up with it because he doesnt want her to get mad and file for custody because he hates court and im just tied of her shit her mission sence she found out i was pregnant was to destroy my life or somthing i just want to cry

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Submitted by caregiver1127 on Sun, 10/31/2010 - 11:00am

Princess - you know she does this so don't expect her to bring him back and then there is no disappointment - when we set no expectations for people then we can't be hurt. Also don't get upset - your DH has the choice to call her and demand you get your SS back - if he doesn't then he is telling her her behavior is okay - he may hate court but having no court order is really affecting you - he should go to court and have it in black and white - obviously your BM needs to be put in her place but since DH won't so it then let the courts do it!

Just take care of you and don't worry about SS so much - worry about those twins - Smile

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Submitted by Anon2009 on Sun, 10/31/2010 - 12:28pm

I agree with caregiver in that you really need to get a court order regarding BM and when you'll have SS. I know they cost money but it's really worth it to have one in the long run. If she violates it she could have to pay hefty fines, face jail time and/or lose custody. It also sets everything in stone and you'll know who has SS and when, and holidays and birthdays can be covered in the court order.

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Submitted by priness80 on Sun, 10/31/2010 - 12:43pm

Dear Caregiver1127 i would just like to say thank you e erytime i vent i hope for a comment from your your advice has helped m so much you dont ven know i wish you could be in the room whn i give birth lol but really thank you so much . and thanks to everyone else who cared

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Submitted by caregiver1127 on Sun, 10/31/2010 - 12:56pm

I wish I could be outside the door protecting you and your twins from that nutbag - I work out a lot and I could really kick some ass - I am a geriatric nurse not a ob/gyn nurse - I actually requested a C-section so that my husband would not see me push - my girlfriend one time had me in the room with her and when the nurse told her to put her leg on her and one on her husband - I was like okay gotta go - but I am all for protecting that damn door - just when you go to visit the hospital explain the situation and she won't be allowed on the floor. PM me anytime you like to vent and thanks for the compliment- sometimes I don't know if my advice helps or not so it is good to see that in your case it did!