I love my SD11 to death there is nothing we wouldnt do for her. But, lately the BM gives her evertything she wants my SD11 has an attitude that just bugs the crap out of my SS9 he is tired of it. The BM doesnt see it a problem so my SS9 feels outnumbered when he is with her. I feel so bad for my SS9. So my hubby and I brought it up to her attention last night she didnt like it she said she wants her privacy and her brother and SS2 always bug her. I told her to let us know when that happens we are the parents not her. She didnt like it at all. Then we told her that her mother called us and told us that she stated that she no longer wants to come to our house she swore up and down that she never said it and then stated that her mom was the one that told her that when she turns 12 she can choose to come to our house if she wants my husband said thats the conversation that I am talking about that you said youve never had with you mother she cried again my husband told her that if she didnt want to come anymore that SHE can call him and tell him that and he would work it out with her mother to make sure that happens she started panicking she stated that she was confused she just wants to go to bed and rest we left her alone the next day she woke up like nothing ever happened she got ready for school she didnt yell at her brother or sister it just frustrates me. I am the strict mother the BM constantly tells my SD11 that she doesnt have to tell me anything if she doesnt want to. She is very liberal she lets her do anyhting she wants which is not the case at our house. I dont know what to do it seems that more and more my SD11 is running away from me, and I dont like it and I dont know what to do. I dont and am not going to be liberal with her she is only 11 that is ridiculous. uffff just frustrated that I dont know how to handle the situation and be close to her like I would really want