You are here

16 weeks

loststepdad's picture

Submitted by loststepdad on Fri, 09/03/2010 - 5:21am

I'm not really sure what to say, so im just going to put it on here as i have no where else to put it and no one to talk to about, it ok if u dont reply i just need to get my thoughts down in words Smile

So I'm a 20yr old male who is in a relationship with a 19yr old girl who I have known for 4yrs, and she is 16 weeks pregnant with another mans baby. He isn't not in the picture as they broke up when she got pregnant. They don't talk so much anymore at all. She says she hates him for what he has done and will never forgive him. Yet i still have a massive feeling in the pit of my stomach as much as we say we'll be together and be a nice happy little family, It scared the living hell out of me that soon as the baby is born that she will take him back. And i have no idea what to do to get over the nerves and i dont think that there is anything i can really do.

I study full time to become a orthopeadics nurse in the E.R. So i know i will be able to support the three of us financially when they baby is born, but that is if she still wants to be with me. i really do love this girl and want to be there for her and the baby. I've always wanted a family at a young age like my mother and father done. and it was such a blessing to me to have a father i could play all sorts of sports with and wrestle with while i grew up and have him be able to keep up with me, and i want the same experience for my kids, although i know this kid isnt mine i still know i will love it as if it is my own, i love kids so much.

So as of now this is where i am at, i guess when something else happens and i need to put it down this is where it'll be put, bye

Comments

prayerhelps's picture

Submitted by prayerhelps on Fri, 09/03/2010 - 8:38am

I agree w/SA and Windee---you yourself are still so young, and things change a lot over the next 5-10 years of your life, especially since you have known this girl since being a teen. I would stay separate for as long as possible, maybe go out on occassion, but focus on your schooling right now. You have a future ahead of you, and the drama this girl could put you in could ruin that.

loststepdad's picture

Submitted by loststepdad on Fri, 09/03/2010 - 8:59am

thank you all so much for your advice ill take it on board and ill guess ill keep everyone posted thanks Smile

JustAnotherSM's picture

Submitted by JustAnotherSM on Fri, 09/03/2010 - 9:45am

I will just offer one piece of advice. Please DO NOT have your name put on the birth certificate for that child if he/she is not yours! After my parents separated, my mom got pregnant by a married man who decided to return to his wife and family when he heard the news. My mom met a man a couple months later and they agreed that he would be the new daddy. New daddy's name went on the birth certificate and mom moved me and my siblings into new daddy's house. We lived with new daddy for less than 2 years before they broke up. This is where things could have turned ugly. Mom didn't want new daddy to have visitation with baby, but he legally had rights to visitation because his name was on the birth certificate. My mom also could have gone after new daddy for CS. However, my mom chose not to go after CS to avoid new daddy having visitation. My mom made a very bad decision by lying on the birth certificate. Please do not let yourself get into a similar situation.