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Step Parent vs. Bio Parent Thing

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Submitted by TheOtherMom on Sun, 08/29/2010 - 10:25pm

I have to wonder if this is part of normal parenting or if I am feeling this way because I am the "Step" parent.

Friday, SS11 was a wonderful child and I couldn't ask for more harmony in the home, but today is Sunday and I can't stand his attitude, mannerisms or snide remarks. Today he got hot sauce in his mouth for telling DH "no way I will do it how I want to!" ... from a normally well mannered child this was shocking.

Anyway, this desire to choke him out or when I am gritting my teeth when I look at him ... is that just part of parenting? Or is it part of Step Parenting?

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Submitted by TheOtherMom on Mon, 08/30/2010 - 8:15am

DH put the hot sauce on the tip of his tongue for being rude to him.
Lying and disrespect are hot saucable offenses in our house.

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Submitted by AVR1962 on Mon, 08/30/2010 - 1:55am

TheOtherMom, I have 3 bios and 2 step and I can tell you that my bios challenged me in ways like you have described and I felt the same way. I think as a stepmom I found myself being more careful with my steps not to jump to conclusions and I always questioned my thoughts like you are doing now.

Just yesterday my bio 13 year old, after having such a wonderful morning, got this major attitude with me. I was floored and I was not happy. I told her not to speak to me like she just did and then I found other things to do and stayed away from her. I wasn't punishing her in anyway. I was just upset and needed my time.

For me it was always a greater challenge when my steps would be hateful or direspectful towards me. I really tried with them but they were so angry.

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Submitted by TheOtherMom on Mon, 08/30/2010 - 8:17am

Regarding punishment, to each his own.

I don't know about the not loving your steps as your own thing because you have both and I do not but I can see your it from perspective.

Thank you.