moving in with him this weekend and scarrrrrrrrrred to death!!!!!!!!!

i have been putting my foot down and he doesnt exactly like it but i got a new job and am moving and i am scared to death. we have been argueing because as soon as his ex nightmare found out she has been causin some issues..........so i have had to set some boundaries being that we only have his son 50 percent of the time.....the other part ot the time is our couple time and we need it.....so she cant call us and expect him to jump all the time.........maybe b4 me but now we need our time as a couple......the whole communication thing is something i have to get used to as well......she likes to dominate our time and that irritates the crap out of me........like asking to keep the son for four hours out of the blue......does anyone else deal with this stuff?

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Yep i deal with that alllllll

Yep i deal with that alllllll the time, Hubby has his kids every 2nd weekend for 4 days.... well according the the court papers and child support, however he is now having them every weekend and whenever they call or whenever the ex asks, he has swapped weekends to suit the ex which did not suit me and my child as we were trying to have all the kids on the same weekends so we could have couple time... i have swapped my son to suit her weekends so many times that his father no longer wants to swap any more, which i understand. So now we have kids all the time... Our relationship has suffered for it and am sick to death of him jumping everytime the kids or the ex ask him to.

He forgets that she initially made the rules over access and she gets her CS for those days. NOT ME.... What i would really love more than anything is for him to say NO. I have my son 50/50 so its not like i bombard him with my child.. I dont say yes to my son or his father unless i truly have to, i realise that i have another family as well as we have a child together too.

So yes i completely understand where you are coming from and if i had a solution for you i would tell you... the only thing is if it really truly bothers you GET OUT NOW.. because if i knew i would never have married him. GOOD LUCK

Sorry i will also add that

Sorry i will also add that since we no longer have couple time and i seem to be constantly fighting for his attention, i figured the best option is i have given up. I no longer ask him to make plans with me, i just make my own and go out and do whatever i want... because if you complain about him being with his kids you come across as a spiteful jealous bitch, and yes we are jealous because we are always second best... MY ADVICE dont expect his undivided attention because it will only lead to dissapointment... hence why my relationship is in the trash

I am giving it six

I am giving it six months......thats all i have to give......if he jumps every time she text or calls in our time then i will have to make a decision to move back........I know i cant live being second all the time...children come first i signed on for that however our relationship must rule our house......i have read that blended families are seven times more likely to fail beacuse of these issues.......i had no idea.......i wouldnt have decided to move unless i researched this a little more first......and if i would have seen some more of the constant interaction with this psycho ex and him jumping each and every time she text or calls........i didnt know that one person could ever control another........