SS14 refuses to do chores
My SS14 recently "moved" in with his dad. He thinks he can go and stay where he wants when he wants. He was staying at our house the majority of the time and now since his dad wanted him to "move" in with him. I have said from the begining that he lives in both just like my kids. He should be going back and forth like all the other kids. His sister has always gone back and forth as visitation stated. Now all the kids have one chore a week ( I would like it to be more but it just works out that way). SS14 thinks that since he "lives" with his dad that relieves him of any duties at our house. I expect my wife. his mother, to discipline him but she just says she doesn't know what to do. Anyone know a way to remedy this situation to get through to him that when you have a responsibility that has to be taken care of. My step son thinks that what I say does not matter he either goes to his dad's or his friends when he thinks I am being mean to him. I am trying to teach him responsibility for himself and respect for others but everytime he starts an arguement that ends as me being mad and him thinking he wins. I have since not let it get me so mad and lay down the law and that is the end of it.
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eh? Why would his dad handle
eh? Why would his dad handle the situation at his mother's house?
I don't think the op is a
I don't think the op is a 'she'.
did you bother to even READ it or do you just skim and reply?
Your wife needs to back you
Your wife needs to back you up. If he won't do his job then he needs to have consequences. If he just leaves then the next time he comes over tell him he is to do his job or he can leave again.
My oldest kid...my bio...was
My oldest kid...my bio...was really difficult about stuff like that. He didn't go back and forth. He lived with us all but about two weeks during the summer. But it was really hard to get him to do anything around the house. And no amount of threatening or punishing really helped. It would help for a few days, then he would go right back to being a pain in the ass.
I'll tell you what worked for us. His car! When he started driving, his car was his life! He knew that if he didn't do what was expected of him at home and at school, he had no keys.
Nate is a male I believe and
Nate is a male I believe and he is talking about his SS and his wife is the bio mother...
Regardless, the kid should do the chores he is suppose to be doing when he is at the house.
My ss also doesnt believe he
My ss also doesnt believe he should participate in chores-he is here eow and longer during holidays and so forth. My dh used to think this as well until I ripped him a new one. In our household we tend to do all housework together. For example on Saturday morning every one gets up and cleans for an hour. Which works for us as there are 6 of us and often we can knock out the whole house this way. SS doesnt feel he should participate because he doesnt live here. I asked him last visit-doesnt he poop in our toilet, track dirt in with his shoes, shower in our shower, and pee in his bed while here? He didnt have an answer just adamantly refused to do any work. Dh gave him a consequence, yeah. So we will see how things are different this time.
I thank you all for the
I thank you all for the comments I pretty much knew what you all were going to say but I do feel better to know I am not alone and to get it off my chest. Again Thank you