Yeah that is right, I am glade my stepson went home
My stepson came to us for the summer, very unexpected...Seriously, I came home from work and he was there. I thought it was for a weekend, as he came over in the past for the weekend, and he ended up staying with us for 6 weeks. I was no where prepared to deal with him for 6 weeks. During his stay it has been nothing but constant arguing between my husband and I. My husband is a softy and belives in giving kids multiple chances....when I do not. I believe if you give a kid instructions they should obey, especially if they are 6yrs old.
This little boy broke my baby pack-n-play, wrote on the walls, wasted numerous of things on the carpet in the guest room....where I specifically said for him not to eat at, broke the blinds, kicked the wall leaving several footprints and etc.
When I told my husband to take him away from him he claimed that I was the one with the problem, not his bad son. So, what did I do??? I txt his ex and told her that she needs to get her son. The trick was to give her a reason to feel bad for my husband.....so typical of exs. So, I told her that my husband and I were having problems....this was done from his phone, as if it was him. Funny thing, when I asked for him to go home earlier....I got no response, but when I told her that we were having problems she immediately respond. I guess she wanted to be his saviour. For me I did not care, I just wanted him to go home.
My husband asked why I did that, and I explained that when I asked for him to respect me in my home, you and him both ignored me, so I said he had to go home, and since you did not want to take him home, I got his mom to take him, even if it was under false pretenses. So of course, he is angry, but who cares about his anger. He did not care about his son breaking items in our home or his son's complete disrepect for me. If I tell him to have a seat, he quickly says "but daddy said I don't have too". So, since you daddy tells you what he can and can not do, then his daddy need to take him away from this house.
I am not sure where this road will lead, maybe we get divorced, maybe we stay married, who knows...but I refuse to allow another child to disrespect me in my home, when I do not allow my own child to disrespect me. So, as I told my husband if you do not like it, I suggest you get your own place, because your son is not welcomed here until he learns some respect.
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So, I told her that my
So, I told her that my husband and I were having problems....this was done from his phone, as if it was him.
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I gotta tell ya, I probably would divorce my Dh if he dared do this.
I realize it is hard to have a new person in your house like that, but this is a 6 year old. I also realize how difficult it is, but to actually send a text via your hubbys phone to pretend to be him, would have been a deal breaker. Have you tried counceling for you both?
Agree with Willow2010. I
Agree with Willow2010.
I wouldn't want to be within 100 yards of someone who would take my phone and send a text as if it were from me - for any reason.
Why didn't you just call her and tell her out in the open to get her child?
I think you are as sneaky, devious and manipulative as my SOs BM is.
I see your point in all of
I see your point in all of this but being sneaky is not the answer. You should have simply told your husband that if he didn't get control of his bad child that you would have no other choice than to call his mother and have her come pick him up.
My stepson who is 7 tries stuff with me like, "you can't spank me" or "mommy says I don't have to listen to you". My response to this kind of mess goes a little something like this, "Your daddy isn't here and while I am taking care of you, you will listen to what I say and do as I tell you to do." Usually when his dad comes home and I tell him all the boy has done he spanks him.
I have started disengaging as
I have started disengaging as of this past weekend. BM had a huge blowout with my husband about me "sticking my nose in where it doesn't belong" when I suggested that their son needs counseling to deal with his sexual abuse. I don't feel like my husband stood up for me and what he also believes so I can show them better than I can tell them. Please give me any pointers you have on disengaging.
Good for you. You dealt with
Good for you. You dealt with your situation the only way that would get your DH's attention. Sometimes, someone has to go to extremes to prove a point.
I completely understand your feelings. I cannot stand it when I walk in the door, knowing that he and I have a quiet/romantic weekend planned, and there sits DH's kid. Unexpected visit, no preparation, all of our plans flushed down the toilet.
It amazes me how us step-moms are supposed to put up with a child's crappy behavior because the parent will not deal with it. But god forbid we do ANYTHING about it. After repeated attempts on your part to have your DH deal with it, you took action.
Again, good for you. Sometime people need a pebble thrown at their head to get their attention. Sounds like your DH needed a boulder this time.
Good luck!