SS was about 8 and told his dad that I wouldn't feed him! WHAT? no I made breakfast and lunch but he was too busy to eat. I am the type that if you are hungry you will eat I don;t force kids to eat. I make their plate and put it on the table. SS got sick that night, I told dh that if he believed that I really wouldn't feed just one of the kids that it was done. Dh said no really I believe you, ss got in trouble. I mean come on there are 5 kids why would I not feed just one!? Ever since then ss14 has tried to lie about lots of things but he has never been able to get away with it.

Hell...where do I start? I am having to lock everything I own up at FH house. Can't leave anything out, my purse, medications, electronics. I had things come up missing so many times when the only people in the house were Fh, his adult kids and myself. It doesn't take a genius to figure that one out but when FH asks his kids about missing items..."I don't know what happened to it". FH doesn't seem to get it either and would rather let it slide than risk having his kids upset over the matter. It was really bad when his youngest son was living with us, along with the son's GF. I ended up breaking up with him over all of this but he did kick ALL of his kids out but somehow the 45 y/o just started "staying" there again (this was all a few months ago) Fh and I are "back on track", but I don't know where the future will take us at this point. I have delayed the wedding two times now and am really trying to take everything day-by-day right now.

SD told BM that I made her wear shoes that were a size too small and then took her out all day and it hurt her feet.

Real story: she forgot sneakers and asked to borrow a pair of mine. I let her and I assumed since she wore them and didn't say anything that they fit.

One day, when ss was about 7, he went with me to visit my mother's house. He then started telling me that if I ever hit him, he would call the police on me and I would go to jail. I was shocked. I asked him why he would say something like that and he just started running around the house and trying to leave (the lock on the door was too high for him to reach). I stood in front of the door, called his father and told him what was going on. His father flipped on him, especially since ss was trying to say that I "started it". Needless to say, it was the last time I took him anywhere with me without someone else.

UGH!!! Little brats.

Lie: SS15 told his entire homeroom multiple times that he was really afraid of taking tests because the "consequences are so bad at home" if he fails, implying he is abused. He then convinced the homeroom teacher he had genuine test anxiety.

Reality: SS was *never* punished for a single bad grade. He was repeatedly punished with loss of privileges for bad *report cards* - and his grades were bad mostly because he had zeros for things he totally failed to hand in. When he bothered to do the work, he got good grades. When he didn't bother to apply himself, *all* his grades were bad, not just the test grades. This indicates a lackadaisical, irresponsible student - not an emotional problem.

The homeroom teacher told me that SS said this in front of the class several times, and that he felt SS had test anxiety and was afraid of SO and me. I attempted to set the story straight. But since SS has a great, friendly attitude and good manners, all the adults around him who don't know him well believe he really is what he seems. The teacher didn't believe me that SS is simply too lazy to do his work consistently and then lies to avoid the consequences. The teacher appeared to have a really low opinion of me, figuring what SS said was true - SO and I are simply too hard on him and I'm just further being a hardass by not calling it test anxiety and babying him further.

So I let the teacher know that when I confronted SS about making this statement, SS said that SS never said anything like that - it was the *teacher* who said "SS's parents are really hard on him" in front of the entire class.

Suddenly it was quite apparent to the teacher that SS was a liar.

L

P.S. - I stand by "punk ass brat"

My skids are really young so I haven’t been the brunt of too many of these kinds of situations yet… the only one I can think of is when SS6 came running in one morning while DH and I were still asleep (somewhere around 6am on a Saturday!) and was jumping up and down with this sharks tooth necklace we bought him at the beach… “Moon! Put on my necklace… put on my necklace…!!!” Me: No dude… too early… put it on your dresser and I’ll put it on you after breakfast. So he proceeds to sulk away… and pulled on the clasp till the whole think pulled apart spilling beads and shark teeth all over the hallway!

When we woke up and DH saw the pieces everywhere the little stinkpot said
“Moon told me to do it and it broke!!!”

I was amazed… kids just blurt out this crap without thinking so they won’t get in trouble! I wonder if their minds they really think it’s the truth…?

My favorite comedian in the world Eddie Izzard may have put it best…

Eddie Izzard on Lying:

Everyone fucking lies! When we were kids we lied our heads off!
“I didn’t do it! I was… I wasn’t… I was dead at the time!
I was on the moon! With Steve!”
And your dad’s going, “I haven’t even accused you of anything yet.”
“Oh, all right. Well… what is… what’s the que– well… I – I – well… what?”
“Did you brush your teeth?”
“No… yes… what’s correct? I was dead at the time!”
Then when you’re more mature, you do start telling the truth
in odd situations. “I’m sorry, I’ve broken the glass, see…
I’ve broken this – is that a – an – expensive?
I’ve – I’ll – I’ve broke it – I’ll pay for that, I’m sorry.”
And you do that so people in the room might go, What a strong personality that person has. I like to have sex with people with strong personalities. “And I’ve broken other things! I smashed that, and… and that’s gone, and I’ve just thrown the cat out the window and…” Ooh, yeah.

SD told DH

That I said if DH died before me that I would take care of my immediate family before helping her out. She was about 23-24YO when she told this one.

FLAT OUT LIE. And that was the last one that she had told about me because I now demand a witness to all of my interactions with SD.

That is like my BF's kid texting her BM "help, help.". Why? Because the 12yr old was bored at my house. Did BF or his EX discipline? No they did not. It was just, " don't do that again okay," UGH...! I would have grounded her butt for a week for playing Wolf. Then you wonder why some kids are the way they are.

Just this week SD13 complained to her BM that I make her have an early bedtime during the summer, that I treat her younger then SD4, and that I let SD4 torment her and call her names and just laugh and think its ok.

SD4 has never said a negative thing about me or H (yet), however she told her dad and I that BM slaps her across the face and is insane and that her SF spanks her. I know neither of those accusations are true either except for maybe BM is a little bit cooky. hehe

My SD said that I let her get sunburned when she refused to allow sunscreen because 'she is part indian', and also that I gave her an antihistimine and it made her sicker. I never addressed either issue with her again, she was probably 13-14 at the time. Burn, sneeze, doesn't bother me!