It is absolutely amazing how much better things are in our house. The drama left the building when DH removed her from the house. We are still waiting for the BM from Hell to sign the modification papers. She now states she wants CS. Ironic since she makes more money than DH. But, she feels that she is so traumitized by the way he dropped her off that she will need extensive therapy. Unbelievable. DH has now accepted that he will be paying something, since she won't sign the papers, but now it will depend on what the mediator recommends.

She is such a b-----. I just want to just tell her off. I know I can't but, she so needs to hear how she started all of this and that it is not a game. By the time this is done, we will have spent thousands and we will have still given up custody of SD14.

The last month, she has done so many things on Facebook and driving by the house with her friends on the golf carts. She thinks this is funny that she won and she doesn't have any rules anymore. Great. Just go away. DH still thinks if she wants to come back and live with us he will let her. Great. I have said fine, but honestly that child will have to apologize for the things she and her mom have said and done. The damage and drama they have created for everyone. Rules will have to be imposed. Many of them. We will have to undo all the damage that BM has done the last three years.

DH and I are doing better. I think he is still blaming me, but he is not verbalizing it anymore. Now he just verbalizes issues with the Ex. She better never come to us needing help with that child. After Father's day and no call and finding out from SS that she was getting SD a card and gift. There is no way she is getting anything from us. BM has encouraged all of this behavior. Feels it is better to talk to children than have as many rules as we do. Ironically, our rules are nothing that any intact family would have. But, if one parent undermines the other, than yes thaat parents house looks like the more fun home.

I just can't get over how much quieter and calmer this house is. I no longer feel like I have to retreat to my room. I don't spend my whole evening worrying about what I say. SS seems to be talking more when he is here. He has his dad's undivided attention. Because SD14 is not absorbing all of the conversation. I was exhausted just listening to her at the dinner table. Countless evenings of eating and everyone leaving the table to just her and her dad. I don't have to wonder why she is suddenly being nice. What does she want? I know I should not feel this way about a child. And nowhere else would I say this, but I am sort of glad she is gone to her mom's. If DH wants a relationship with her he can have it, just I don't want to be included in it. Right now he says he doesn't want one, since all she would want would be to do the fun stuff and he can't parent her, so why listen to all her stories about the things that mom lets her do. He can't stop it, so why listen to it? There are four more years before 18 and all I see is her manipulating him for that time.

Now last week we went and bought SS a new tv for his bedroom for his birthday. His was dying anyway. He is thrilled. He doesn't have his own at BM. But SD does. He is starting to see the inadequacies over there. Hopefully he will tell us he wants to be here full time. If he does DH will be immediately on the phone to the lawyers and sue BM the way she did us. We keep telling ourselves that right now everything we are doing is for him. Forget everything else, just what is best for him. I just want him to hurry up and tell us.