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Submitted by cso.renee on Sat, 06/19/2010 - 7:31pm

I know it is probably wrong but I can't wait till its time for SD16 to go home to BM. DH and I have done nothing but stay at odds for the 2 weeks SD has been with us. I have 2 BD's 12 and 14 who have been pretty accomodating considering yet nothing is good enough. Even the other SD19 who came to visit was a joy to be with. Just don't get it but hanging on for the next 22 hours to fly by so I can have a moment. Smile

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Submitted by herewegoagain on Sat, 06/19/2010 - 8:20pm

It is sad...but I too have been there and understand. It does feel horrible to hear such things, but I believe the bio-parents aré 100% at fault for allowing the skids to run our lives and for allowing the BMs to harrass us so much incl through the child that we resent them all. I wonder how horrible I would feel for my little boy if someone spoke about him in that way...but I also know that in order to ensure that someone doesn't resent him, I HAVE to not harrass the ex and wife, I have to NOT bad mouth the smom or bio-dad...or MY son would suffer...and so the first people who care more about themselves than their kids are the bio-parents...and somehow by them doing so you aré supoosed to care moré about the child than yourself...

Hugs to you...know that I do believe YOU are not at fault, your DH and the BM are...

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Submitted by cso.renee on Wed, 06/30/2010 - 11:13pm

Thanks! I needed someone to empathize.

I know I am not perfect but God knows I have taught my kids that their hearts are big enought to love as many people as love them back. I have no issues with them being kind to their bioDads girlfriend and actually wouldn't tolerate them being any less than respectful to any adult. I figure their bio dad loves them like I do and he isn't going to let anyone be around them that would mistreat them.

I totally agree with you that my DH and his ex have done their daughter a grave disservice. It is so sad... I really hate that I feel like I do but I am going to keep my focus and try work on a communication plan for DH and I so that we don't have this become an out of control problem.

Thanks again...