I dont know how to get on with my step daughter!!!

I'm married and we have a 10 month old. My husband has a 8 year old daughter from a previous relationship. She doesn't seem to like me at all. My husband and I have been together for over 3 years and nothing has changed. This sounds awful too but i don't trust her to be left alone with my child. She has no manners and is not disciplined although she is not badly behaved. My husband doesn't seem to understand how i feel and i cant really talk to him or anyone else about this as i dont know anyone who is in the same kind of situation as me. Not sure where to go from here!!

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i was in the same situation

i was in the same situation as u a few years ago---exsd was 8, bd3 was a baby--and i didnt trust her at all, especially around my daughter. she was out of control, hated me, so i was fearful she would hurt my bd. in fact, right before he and i split, there was a series of incidents where she DID hurt my bd. she was sneaky and when no one was looking, she would do something to bd and then play it off like bd just fell down or ran into something. after the first 2 incidents, i watched from afar and caught exsd in action, but exbf STILL wouldnt understand.

my advice is to keep your baby with u all the time your sd is there. its hard, and no one should have to live in fear, but unless your dh begins to see the light, or you leave, u have to do what is best for your baby. i wouldnt make it a huge issue--just do what u have to do. and if you are questioned on how you go about things, just act as if u dont realize what u are doing.

up until i left him, i was bringing bd in the shower with me, having her go everywhere with me, including the potty. i had her baby monitor on at night and locked her bedroom door at night. she was, still is, 3. exbf would comment about exsd watching bd3 while we went out, and i told him i'd rather have my friend's 9yr old son watch her than sd. would never do that but the point i was making to him was i didnt want exsd unsupervised with bd3.

good luck hun, and keept hat baby safe.