So, DH and I were once again arguing about issues related to my family being here in our house for a week. And he mentioned in a random, unrelated note, "just let you know how outside people see our marriage..." and he told me how earlier this girl, his ex-student cuz he is a teacher (she is like 17 or 18 now) said on facebook that she thought it was awkward that he had BS2 listed as his son and I didn't have SD6 listed as my daughter.

Now, DH once mentioned that to me. He asked why didn't I have SD6 listed as my daughter.

Ok, for those who don't know my story: i had a son with someone that was never there for me during my pregnancy, delivery or raising of the child. DH was the first man to ever hold my child at a week old. We got married when my son was 7 months and now he is 2.5. They see each other as father and son, and he has never had to deal with my son's sperm donor.

I know SD since she was 3, we got married when she was 4 and now she is 6. When she is here, I do everything for her, I love her, she loves me. I can't say is the same type of love that I have for my son. BM is around, she lives with her and decisions are taken between DH and BM. She is not my child, I cannot just take her to get a haircut, or choose if she is going to dance ballet, if she is going to a private school, if she is not going to a birthday party, etc...

I am pissed that this stupid girl has an opinion of what I feel like listing on facebook or not. Also, I am 21, and feel weird listing a 6 year old as my daughter. This makes me really mad. Oh and how does this random girl that I don't even know mean that "outside people"... that is a bunch of bull crap.

DH told me that he explained to her that he is my son's adoptive father, he doesn't have another father in his life. SD has her dad and mom actively in her life, I am a third parent, and like it or not, NOT as important. Whatever...