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F*#k.... ARGGGHHHHH!!!!!! I feel like screaming and running for the hills!!!!!!!

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Submitted by vgill on Wed, 04/14/2010 - 6:52am

I don't know who to be upset with DH, or SS12!!! SS12 is a rotten brat and I hate him!!! I can't stand the sight of him or the sound of his whiney voice!!! Noe DH wants me to be a mother to him, and Lord knows I have tried but rthe kid is rotten, and every time I do something motherly like I do to my own kids like try to discipline him he screams and yells in my face and DH, basically tells me to butt out and He'll deal with, which he never really does he just growls at him for a second or two and then ss12 does whatever he wants anyway! Dh growls when my kids make the slightest mess,(and they make messes, they are little kids 5,7&9) I make sure they clean it up, and they are good kid, not perfect but good and respectful. The big thig is that my kids do more work, are more responsible, and better behaved than either of his kids. In fact my daughter who is 5 is more resposible and does more chores that either ss12 or ss14. I am just frustrated, what does Dh want, he wants me to be a mother to his kids and I was willing to give it my best, but everytime I have to do something like discipline, or anything that needs enforced like rules, I am basically told to butt out and that he'll take care of it, which he never really does, what does he want !!!??? If I am just supposed to be there to make sure ss12 has his supper and his laundry is done(no longer doing that)and that his homework gets done and I am supposed to be the one the babies him and listens to his day.... WTF Isn't that a baby sitter!!!! what does Dh want a mother for his kids of a fucking babysitter!!either way if he doesn't want me to do a real mothers job than I am not babysitting either, I wont have anything to do with these kids anymore, they are a waste of my time!! I am just sick and tired knowing that I have at least 6 more years of this bullshit ahead of me!!! what am I going to do!!????

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Submitted by dianalg on Thu, 04/15/2010 - 10:03am

I know and I am in the same boat, but, one is almost 20 and still stupid and wanting money, no job of course and useless like his fucken mother. The 16 yr old is just like your story, living with us unfortunately and I wish he would fall off the edge of the earth along with my fiances fucken sister.

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Submitted by dianalg on Thu, 04/15/2010 - 10:07am

Disengaging is the only thing that is working for me, i keep saying to myself, this fucken kid is invisible, this kid is invisible, hopefully he becomes just that. I hate him to, and he is very odd. Hoarding food in the bedroom, eating diet food i bought myself, a whole box of cereal in one night. There are many other things but this is the one that is bugging me the most today.

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Submitted by vgill on Wed, 04/14/2010 - 7:01am

I am just soo tired of this conflict, in fact the only thing that DH and I argue about is his rotten kids! Even Dh admits that they have problems, when I asked him why he was so hard on my kids, when he lets his kids get away with so much, he said" it's too late to do anything with they boys(ss12,ss14) and I don't want the little kids to turn out like t he boys have" his exact words. what do I do in this situation????

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Submitted by soverysad on Wed, 04/14/2010 - 7:58am

" it's too late to do anything with they boys(ss12,ss14) and I don't want the little kids to turn out like t he boys have" - That is a big friggin' cop out. He disciplines yours because it is EASY to discipline someone else's kids (especially if they listen) and he lets his do whatever they want because he doesn't want to deal with the fallout of having his own kids pissed off at him. Pathetic!! I'd tell him in no uncertain terms that he can't have his cake and eat it too. New rules

1) If I can't discipline your kids, don't discipline mine
2) If I can't discipline your kids and they don't have the same rules as my kids, I won't treat them the way I treat my kids
3) If your kids can't help out and do some work around the house like my kids, I will stop doing things for them
4) If your kids aren't going to listen to me when I speak, I will not respond to them when they speak.

It is called MUTUAL RESPECT.

"A pessimist complains about the wind, an optimist counts on the wind changing, a realist adjusts his sails"

There IS a difference between having a different opinion and being an asshole, find it.