I know this is my first blog entry and I guess I found this group at just the right time because..... I need to vent! This whole SM thing is starting to wear me out.... and DH too. I make DH stay in contact with SD because I was pretty much abandoned by my BF when I was younger and I know how important it is to have him present in her life. BM does not make this easy, I guess I don't understand because my mom was never this way. BM is such a manipulative, back stabbing, two faced LIAR! There is a whole lot to the story that I could share but I'll save that for another time. Here is the current issue. BM calls last month and says to DH "I'm coming to visit my mom and I'd be nice if YOU would come and visit your daughter". We talked about it, BM wanted to argue about it because she doesn't like ME to be around when she is.... only DH. If I am around during visit's where BM is present, I put my foot down and call her out on her bullshit. Anyways, BM parents live 200 miles away from us, we decided that we would try to make plans to go see SD..... in Late April like BM had origionally told us. Yesterday (Thursday) we get a phone call from BM saying "I'm going to see my mom THIS weekend" (Fri-Sun). DH explains to her that he has to work the weekend and with such short notice there is no way we would be able to make it. Now there is a huge fight, BM is trying to accuse me of preventing him from seeing SD which is a complete lie. I have no idea what she has told SD because when SD called last night she was very rude and when DH got on the phone she asked him "how come you never want to see me?" (keep in mind SD and BM live over 800 miles away) then proceeded to tell him that he doesn't love her and a bunch of other non-sense about how he was a bad person and blah blah blah. We get SD in 2 months for visitation and the closer the time gets the harder it is for me to even be happy about it. It seems like it takes us the first few weeks to get her used to being here again and that what her mom has told her is not true.... then she's a good kid for a month or so and then as soon as she finds out when her mom will be picking her up she totally turns into a wicked little witch. Ugh! I HATE THIS SHIT!